Someone once asked...

“So, I will never dated my whole life. I am 20 now. And I know my parents would be getting me married 25. Of course, I don’t know that. Will it be an arrange marriage or love marriage? I’m sure that I don’t trust this arrange marriage shit, and I can’t find love because I’ve never date and maybe if I ever get chance in future, I will, but I am so focused on my career and my parents are also strict, but they have given me permission that once I get my degree, I can marry a person of my choice, but they should agree to it. Only if he is of the same religion and good for me. According to them now I am really confused that people around me. Call me that you are pretty, but you don’t date. That’s not the problem. Because all I see my friends and everybody we have at least had one or two ex and when I look into this, I think why have never anybody ever approached me am I not good enough, and then how will I find the love of my life and I’m introvert person I don’t. I’m straight though, but I don’t talk to men often because they’re not trustable.”

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Someone answered with kindness...

You sound like a kind person, you still have five years to find someone and I hope you will. It seems like you've waited for someone to approach you all this time, but I think you could try intitiating yourself. It can be hard if you don't talk to men, but try to compliment or talk to some you see daily, coworkers or classmates or friends of friends, just start by mentioning small things. My girlfriend and I were close friends first and are still each other's close friends and partners, and I believe love comes from understanding each other first. Think of how you've made female friends in the past, and try that with men. I know it's different, but if you make friends and then get closer, you might be able to find love. Don't say you can't find love, it's possible for you and I believe in you, even though I'm just a stranger. Even though things look rough now, I promise one day it will be okay, and you will find someone to be with you. My blessings go with you

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