“So I have this guy as my singing partner...from 1st year but in 3rd year he suddenly asked me out not for a date but for his movie purposes.....he wants to listen to his story ( which is almost so bad honestly ) and give me review and say how is the story line...but I seem that was just a copy from game of thrones...he is just repeating something that's the obviously that it is copied...HE SAID HE WANTS TO BE A DIRECTOR! but he never really put the efforts so whatever but I never said to him directly that's it bad..I just encouraged him to do even better
Soo we meet a coffee shop and he said me this..later we meet everyday almost...and we never really discussed about movies just everything else.. I'm so happy and dumbass got attached and developed feelings idk whatever but I want to be with him or maybe because I never a man in life other than my dad..(only child issue)
It's all going well but yk he went to tirupathi and then his hometown on dasara holidays I never really had a call or something..only I used to call and he would act busy..I called him 2 to 3 times ig..I got pissed
One day he came hostel that night...i don't remember I called him or he did but I started talking so weird and rude like I'm feeling mad inside...he asked what happed..i said nothing he said OH....then i started why won't you even call me...if you behave like this i would never talk to you again..he was talking like that's me , what's that's a big issue?..i will be busy when I'm at my home because I have work ( but he sends me reels and keeps status but he just couldn't have time for me 🤡)..I felt that's so rude guys....he was so nonchalant and emotionaly unavailable ( I have said him that call me from time to time cause I might get bored because I'm alone in my hostel) he could atleast to talk to me properly when I called him guys but he didn't he acted all busy but when here in hostel he acts all good????
It's wrong on my side too I accept..that to expect a guy to behave as a bf is worng when you both are not on same page...
So guys after I had a fight he cut the call..saying if want to talk to me talk or not.. its your wish..but I will be this way....i want shock to core guys because it's not he I have seen he was so nice he was healthy and understanding.. I'm already in the skies with him but he suddenly one night aug 31.. everything changed
I was so wrong so so wrong to act that rude and showing attitude guyssss...but then later he removed me on insta from both of his acc and I was shock..i thought the matter is so small that he wouldn't react this bad guys...and after 3days I called him but he didn't call back..I never heard from him
So now guys I'm feeling so guilty because I lost the person who i thought would be my good friend and I always wanted a frnd in college who is a male... because all my friends have someone..but I have none..and ever since that day I wanted to Apologise to him guys.. SHOULD I DO IT?....but he is completely different person that day..he show how egoistic and nonchalant he could..we are strangers now in college
I miss him i want to him back
What should I dooo plss someone help me? 😭 Or give me any manifestation tips or whatever guyss..or should I stfu?”
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Someone answered with kindness...
I think the most important thing is to separate two things here: missing someone and being responsible for losing them. You can acknowledge that you reacted rudely and could have communicated your feelings better without taking responsibility for his entire decision to cut contact. You wanted consistency and a little effort, which isn't an unreasonable thing to want, especially when you'd grown close. At the same time, he may genuinely have different expectations around communication, and neither of you seems to have understood the other's perspective. If you genuinely want to apologise, I'd say do it once, without expecting a particular response. Something like, "Hey, I've been thinking about how things ended. I'm sorry for the way I spoke to you that day. I could have communicated what I was feeling much better. I did value our friendship, and I miss having you around. I don't expect anything, but I wanted to say that." Then leave the decision to him. If he responds, you can take things from there; if he doesn't, respect that too. But please don't turn this into a mission to win him back through manifestation or repeated attempts. You can miss him, regret how things unfolded, and still recognise that a friendship needs mutual effort. Apologise if it's genuine, not because you believe you have to earn your way back into someone's life. ❤️