I don't have a best friend or even one close friend who understands me or is there for me all the time. With whom I can share all my secrets or open up. I have few friends but idk if they consider me their close friends. Sometimes I think it's because i don't initiate to talk first or i don't put effort in making the friendship deeper. But it should be natural and both ways. I also have avoidment issues

Question

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I think you're right about one thing
Friendship should feel natural and it shouldn't be one person's responsibility to keep it alive But sometimes we also have to let people in and make an effort to build that connection Not everyone will automatically understand us and not everyone knows how to approach us either...Maybe your avoidance is sometimes stopping people from getting closer to you. You don't necessarily need a best friend who is available 24/7 but someone with whom you can be completely yourself without feeling like you're too much. And honestly I hope you find that kind of friendship where you never have to question whether you're important to someone🫶🏻