“Why is it that whenever you're the one making the greatest efforts in something the concerned person just don't care. I don't know why this happens every single time......... I go out of my way to make someone feel comfortable and shit and yet I'm the one looking like or feeling like a clown..... People leaving my messages on seen, Thinking I'm insignificant to talk to...... I know I'm not that bad or boring but still they do this shit... I don't know what it is... How to stop this .. can someone help pls.”

Another soul answered...

I'm really sorry for what you're going through. Unfortunately, "It doesn't matter if you're the brightest shade of blue, if their favourite colour is red" I dunno if your situation is related to romance or friends, but, sometimes, no matter how hard you try, people just won't acknowledge your efforts. It is better for your own mental health to just move on from that person. It will be very difficult and might take a lot of time, but for your own sake, it is necessary. But, don't write it off as the end of that story. Who knows? They might return into your life. For now, just take the happiest memories you have with them, and move on. I hope everything goes well for you. I'm sorry if I haven't been of any help.

Another soul answered...

I think sometimes we get so invested in making people feel valued that we forget to ask whether we're being valued too You cannot force someone to reciprocate your efforts no matter how genuine your intentions are And please stop measuring your importance by someone's reply time or the way they treat you Some people simply won't match your energy and that's okay Learn to stop overextending yourself Don't always be the one initiating conversations checking up on people or making plans Give people room to show you how much they want you in their lives Match efforts maintain boundaries and never beg for basic consideration Most importantly don't let someone's inability to appreciate you make you question your personality or worth You don't have to become less caring you just have to become more careful about where you invest your care ❤️