Well me and my older brother have a bad sibling relationship, we don't talk even though we're literally living in the same house.. maybe a few words but that's it, and I feel so bad because we used to be like best friends before and before he actually acted like an older brother, now he ignores me and acts like we're not related..I tried talking to him but he just gets angry, I feel so jealous because all my friends have really sweet siblings and here I don't even talk to my brother. He doesn't even help me and He doesn't even act like my older brother it feels like I'm an only child...I wish I had an older sister ☹️

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

sorry, that sounds really painful. Especially when you remember how close you both used to be. I think sometimes it's not even about wanting your sibling to do something big for you, you just want that little bond back, someone you can talk to, laugh with, share things with and feel comfortable around.

And I get why seeing your friends have such sweet relationships with their siblings makes you feel jealous. It's not that you don't want them to be happy, it's just that you wish you had that too.

But please don't blame yourself for how things are between you two. A relationship takes effort from both sides, and you can't keep trying if he's not willing to meet you halfway.

Maybe give him a little space for now. It doesn't mean you have to stop caring about him, but don't keep hurting yourself trying to get his attention either. Sometimes people change, and we don't always know what's going on in their minds.

I really hope things get better between you both someday. And just because he's distant right now doesn't mean the good memories you shared weren't real.