This has been bugging me a lot and I would be thankful for all the responders here. I'll keep it short and to the point for y'all. Thanks in advance!!

Well, I am dating a guy.
It's a LDR. I'm in India and he is in the US. We have at it since 2 years now.
Honestly, I like him, he's a nice guy.
Here are the cracks:

1. Boredom : Let's say, if I were to keep quiet for a while, then I know that he can't carry the conversation at all and it gets super boring.

2. The "in-laws" : I'm a date to marry kind of person. So naturally, I was hoping to get things moving with his family as well. Turns out his mum isn't that accepting of me. She does say that I'm okay with whoever my son chooses but she doesn't invite me on festivities, no wishes, and intuitively I don't feel that great when I've met her. Like, I can say that something is off. Mind you, we guys love 15 mins away from each other but they don't invite me or my family over for any kind of talks and just keep saying that when their son is here, then they'll plan anything.

3. The chemistry: I feel that I am unable to find any chemistry with him. Like every other women, I enjoy sex a lot. I enjoy foreplay and everything about it. But he can't maintain his hardness even upto a minute, he says that since he's a virgin, this will take him sometime.
I understand it. But at the same time, I'm in a place where I have lost the desire for sex with him and the intimacy has died as well. Since it's a LDR, it's already tough to manage the chemistry, I did come up with some options but he wasn't willing to try them. And I may sound crass while I say this but I feel that even at 31, if the guy is still learning how to do it, I just don't know how to be okay with it.

4. The dillema: I don't know what to do if this relationship. On paper he's a nice guy but super boring. We can't find much common between us. I'm a sapiosexual and he's unable to hold any intellectual conversation enough to excite me. The bed thing as well, I am in such a tough spot that if I bring up how tough it is for me, then I am always painted as a villain or as a girl who can't be patient, or anything else and other the other hand, if I don't discuss about it, then I keep suffering and I have reached this point that I don't feel desire anymore. I'm often in doubt about this relationship. He keeps promising me that it will be okay.
Frankly speaking, I'm just scared. If love marriage scenario is such, I am fearful to try the arrange marriage scene.

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This has been bugging me a lot and I would be thankful for all the responders here. I'll keep it short and to the point for y'all. Thanks in advance!!

Well, I am dating a guy. 
It's a LDR. I'm in India and he is in the US. We have at it since 2 years now. 
Honestly, I like him, he's a nice guy. 
Here are the cracks:

1. Boredom : Let's say, if I were to keep quiet for a while, then I know that he can't carry the conversation at all and it gets super boring.

2. The "in-laws" :  I'm a date to marry kind of person. So naturally, I was hoping to get things moving with his family as well. Turns out his mum isn't that accepting of me. She does say that I'm okay with whoever my son chooses but she doesn't invite me on festivities, no wishes, and intuitively I don't feel that great when I've met her. Like, I can say that something is off. Mind you, we guys love 15 mins away from each other but they don't invite me or my family over for any kind of talks and just keep saying that when their son is here, then they'll plan anything.

3. The chemistry: I feel that I am unable to find any chemistry with him. Like every other women, I enjoy sex a lot. I enjoy foreplay and everything about it. But he can't maintain his hardness even upto a minute, he says that since he's a virgin, this will take him sometime. 
I understand it. But at the same time, I'm in a place where I have lost the desire for sex with him and the intimacy has died as well. Since it's a LDR, it's already tough to manage the chemistry, I did come up with some options but he wasn't willing to try them. And I may sound crass while I say this but I feel that even at 31, if the guy is still learning how to do it, I just don't know how to be okay with it.

4. The dillema: I don't know what to do if this relationship. On paper he's a nice guy but super boring. We can't find much common between us. I'm a sapiosexual and he's unable to hold any intellectual conversation enough to excite me. The bed thing as well, I am in such a tough spot that if I bring up how tough it is for me, then I am always painted as a villain or as a girl who can't be patient, or anything else and other the other hand, if I don't discuss about it, then I keep suffering and I have reached this point that I don't feel desire anymore. I'm often in doubt about this relationship. He keeps promising me that it will be okay. 
Frankly speaking, I'm just scared. If love marriage scenario is such, I am fearful to try the arrange marriage scene.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

People who dont talk to many girls they dont have habit of talking and dont know how to carry conversations like another guy suppose who is a playboy kind of person and you bed matter should be discussed with your bf you both will find a way to it and you should tell him and explain him the way you want it and their in laws maybe dont interact that much because you are not his wife you are his gf like i know this is not how it suppose to be but from their perspective or they dont like you or maybe the guy is not serious abt you and their  family knows about it