“I was in a relationship with a guy called shravan....it was soooo bad it ends soo badly....Exactly like long ago i moved on okayy.... Then i met another guy..... We were just friends for few months... Like i was sooooo rude to him initially.... But idk y.. he stayed eventually he started building feelings on me.... And at some point I thought it might work out soo but I kinda knew he liked me... But he had no clue at allll.... whatever i feel.... Like feeling low, happy what ever it is I used to tell him and whatever he used to feel even a silly thing he used to tell me
.... His friends told him to confess on Nov 5th he confessed..... I told all the problems like regarding family, and stuff he was okay with it and i agreed.... But idk yyyyyy ..... I seriously have nooooo idea since the time relationship started I started getting panic attacks, anxiety, sleepless nights, not able to eat at allll... Like one spoon that's ittt..... And he isn't like shravan... He's completely opposite... His name is Vijay.... Like he expresses sooo wellll..... He shares everything, i feel like he's the best person, in future also we'll be happy he will look after me sooo welll.... But I have nooooo idea like he expresses to me something like saying I love you.... It feels like I'm forcefully saying it.... Like me forcing myself to say it back or I'm not feeling that wayyyyy.... When we were friends I was excited...... I felt sooooo guilty like I still feel sooooo guilty that i put him in this situation.... Like i told this to him... He tried to console me soooo much he was like don't worry we'll figure it out .. I'm there to take care whatever it is...... But idk .. since he start of the relationship I'm not able to sleep, eat, panick attacks, anxious, feel like cryinggggg.... Then i finally told him again he was like okay we'll be friends but please come out of it.... Ik it's not easy for him.... Though he's pretending to be alright ik He's not.... But he's making sure I'm happy.... But i feel soooo bad for him.... Like never in my life i thought I'll make some suffer... I want him to get better.... He says he's fine.... But idk when relationship starts I can't even sleep eat..... I feel like cryinggggg crying... Idk y I'm feeling this wayyyyy i have noo idea... Now we r not in relationship friends only but i feel guilty”
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Someone answered with kindness...
its your problem tbh ...because of your emotions flowing all over the place/uncontrollable mental space those guys are gonna suffer/or idk they know this ?...
so yeahh first of all work upon yourself before getting into a relationship ..how will you act as a good partner /take care of him when you yourself are getting weaker/emotionally not so balanced ...
im not saying showing /reacting to these emotions is bad but still everyone wants peace in there life ,and happiness ...
try to know whats bothering you , what you aer feeling , and why , what you can control ,and what is out of your hands, and clearly communicate your wants with those guys
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Wandering voices — answers no one has read yet
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Another soul answered...
It's because of your previous relationship the trauma you endured while experiencing that breakup you are just scared that he might also do the same or leave and you might again deal with all that you were comfortable with him when he was a friend because you know you will not lose him but when it is a relationship you unintentionally know you will part your ways your body is reacting to the trauma experience you need to believe in him that he won't leave you, trust me if a guy is getting bake being friends just for your sake then he actually loves you, trust in him and trust yourself that you can actually fall in love with a person who keeps you calm