Someone once asked...

“I'm 20m and have a twin sister and I genuinely think I've ruined my entire family in like 3 days. Idk how to even say this but me and my sister had sex last weekend. I know how fucked up that is and I wish I could say it was some misunderstanding but it wasnt. We've always been close and lately things got really confusing between us. Afterwards I felt sick and told her it could never happen again. She started crying and saying I was treating her like some disgusting mistake. We had a massive argument and I left the house for a few hours. When I came back my goldfish Milo was dead. I've had him for almost 5 years and she knew how much I loved him. She admitted she killed him because she wanted me to know how it felt to lose something I cared about. I just sat there crying and she kept saying I cared more about a stupid fish than her. Then my mom heard us arguing and asked what was going on. My sister told her everything. I panicked and lied that my sister had forced me into it. My mom started screaming and my dad came upstairs. My sister was literally begging me to tell them the truth but I couldnt even look at her. This morning my parents found messages proving I lied. My dad told me to get out and my mom said she doesn't recognise either of us anymore. My sister hasn't spoken to me since. I know I should be thinking about what happened between us and how badly I've hurt everyone but I keep staring at Milo's empty tank. I buried him yesterday and cried for like an hour. My sister texted me earlier saying she hates me and honestly I think I hate her too. Three days ago we were eating dinner together like a normal family and now I don't even have a home to go back to. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I don't even know what part of this I'm meant to feel guilty about first.”

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Someone answered with kindness...

Uh, feel guilty about having sex with your sister? Look I know you fucked up, maybe even sinned, if your Christian. But atleast sinners can change, find a fresh start, somewhere. You’ll thank me later

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Another soul answered...

guilt makes you weaker and mentally down.be untouchable. for that you should forget about the past

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