i have turned 13 a few months ago, and on my birthday my parents both slept in until 11:50am.. and i really dont want to sound spoiled but their gifts were kind of the type of thing you just pick up from the dollar store on some random weekday and i felt really undervalued that day. i didnt get any birthday cake or cupcakes either. my dad drinks (he doesnt act abusive or violent when drunk) and my mother is always working. i used to go to the beach every weekend with my dad until mid-2025. i stopped going with him because when i borrowed his phone, i found corn on it. i felt really uncomfortable going with him to the beach so i stopped. now me and my parents rarely spend time together, im always in my bedroom while my mum is in the study working and my dad at his workplace. i speak under 10 words to my dad and under 20 words to my mum per day. both my parents have been caught cheating on eachother and it hurts me. school is nice, i have very close friends and i love it! but sometimes i feel like i have nobody to talk to when i feel extremely low. im not smart, pretty or good at anything, i hate it, and myself. i genuinely dont know what to do so i spend most of my time in my room listening to music in my headphones. i miss being 5. i feel like i can't open up to anybody, especially my own parents. sorry if this is really long but i just had to let this out so ty if you respond

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i have turned 13 a few months ago, and on my birthday my parents both slept in until 11:50am.. and i really dont want to sound spoiled but their gifts were kind of the type of thing you just pick up from the dollar store on some random weekday and i felt really undervalued that day. i didnt get any birthday cake or cupcakes either. my dad drinks (he doesnt act abusive or violent when drunk) and my mother is always working. i used to go to the beach every weekend with my dad until mid-2025. i stopped going with him because when i borrowed his phone, i found corn on it. i felt really uncomfortable going with him to the beach so i stopped. now me and my parents rarely spend time together, im always in my bedroom while my mum is in the study working and my dad at his workplace. i speak under 10 words to my dad and under 20 words to my mum per day. both my parents have been caught cheating on eachother and it hurts me. school is nice, i have very close friends and i love it! but sometimes i feel like i have nobody to talk to when i feel extremely low. im not smart, pretty or good at anything, i hate it, and myself. i genuinely dont know what to do so i spend most of my time in my room listening to music in my headphones. i miss being 5. i feel like i can't open up to anybody, especially my own parents.  sorry if this is really long but i just had to let this out so ty if you respond <3

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Heyy
It's okay to let it all out
You don't need to hate yourself for feeling this way 
And pleassee pleeaaseee trust me that everything is going to be okayy
You are too young to be facing all this and you might feel like life is being unfair to you 
But it's going to be okay
The thing is you can't change your parent's actions and everything they do
But the thing you can do is learn how to not let that thing affect you and your happiness
Please don't let these things take away your spark and life from you
And also don't give up on yourself
Trust me I have faced all this and it all gets better
You get happier 
You get full Of life
And it's okay to reach out to friends when you feel low
They are your close people they will understand you
And next time you feel Low, observe that that low feeling will fade away if you just let it be there
It will fade away In 2 3 days
God is with you
He loves you more than anyone
It's okay if you don't feel Like it right now due to your present situation but he is there
You can talk to him too if no one is there
He will listen
And everything is going to be okay
Okayy!??

You are loved and I genuinely wish that you have a great life ahead
Take care of yourself good okay!? 
Byee