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“I just want get out of this phase”. And you will. As you said yourself this is a phase. Our life is not one linear path we tread from birth to school to college to work to pension to death. To quote a cliche “there will always be ups and downs”. and there will be what seams like a lot of downs, because we as humans tend to focus on those more. But if we look deeper we will see there’s also a lot more ups. I don’t know a lot about you, but I can tell these things from this text. You have loving parents who care about you, you found out that what you were doing in college wasn’t for you (which doesn’t seem like a good thing until you realize that some people only find out they studied their asses of for a degree they don’t want or can’t use later in life, instead of in college, when you still have plenty of time to figure out if you even want to study anymore). Also, getting a degree is an accomplishment, yes it’s nice to have, but you know what’s also an accomplishment? Running an iron man, being an Olympian, winning a spelling bee, running a business, being a good worker, being a good person,… some of these might be easier to achieve than others, but if you don’t run an iron man, you probably won’t get any weird looks right? Because it’s a really hard thing to do that not everyone is capable of… you see where I’m getting at? For some people, for whatever reason, getting a degree is a very difficult thing to achieve, you can get an “easier” degree, or you can get no degree at all and guess what? There are millions if not billions of people that do not get degrees or get the “easier” degrees and are perfectly and absolutely happy and content with this. A degree will give you access to some higher level, but also way higher demanding jobs, where pressure will also be higher. If this is not for you, who the f cares? I know it can be difficult to accept, but trust me, life is full of weird af jobs you’ve never even heard of that are cool and fun and even pay really well. And most importantly maybe, please don’t live to work as they say, yes I get that working is necessary for money but life is so much more than a job. Your parents then, I get not wanting to disappoint them but TRUST ME, they would rather have a depressed child going through some hardships, and navigating those together, than they would have a college student child that is either dead or so burnt out they can’t function. No parent wants their child to struggle, but every parent that loves their child will help them when they do. Also, getting help for your mental health problems is not a bad thing, and trust me, even if it’s scary at first, the positive effect is worth every second of fear you might feel. Do it scared, do it afraid, but please do it, if you don’t feel worthy of it, which you absolutely are, then do it for those worrying parents of yours. (You can even get a therapist appointment online nowadays, so you wouldn’t have to leave your room or get someone to bring you if you don’t want to). Sincerely, a very understanding former college student, who has been in a similar situation, and is now not rich, but very, very happy, and very grateful that someone told me these same things before I made a mistake I couldn’t come back from, unlike the simple “mistake” of pushing yourself too hard to fit somebody else’s premade story. Take care, seriously <3
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Hey. I am so sorry to hear that. In life people have good and bad moments. They can do well one day and fail the next but life is full of uncertainty. You won’t know what tomorrow is like until you experience it could be great or it could be hell but its up to you to keep going. One year of mistakes does not determine your future. Your choice to keep going does. I am proud of you.,
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