I have a male friend, older than me, whom I’ve known for 1–2 years. I genuinely like him and enjoy his company, but his repeated inconsistencies and possible dishonesty have affected my trust.

There’s also a mutual female friend. He sometimes speaks negatively about her but continues maintaining a close equation with her. I’ve noticed inconsistencies and dishonesty in what he tells me about their interactions.

Recently, I called him to meet. He said he was busy, but 10–15 minutes later I saw him coming downstairs with her. He later explained that he had coincidentally met her and she came to his house for some work. I found this difficult to believe, especially given our history.She genuinely likes him n is jealous of me.

When I confronted him, I became emotional. He comforted me, held my hand, hugged me and confessed that he liked me. He then tried to kiss me 3–4 times, but I repeatedly refused. He eventually apologised and said he wouldn’t bring up his feelings again.

I have feelings for him too, but I don’t trust his honesty or understand his intentions. I feel he may be creating romantic ambiguity with both of us.

Should I end the close friendship, stop meeting him personally and maintain only cordial contact? Am I right to be concerned, or am I overthinking? Please give me an honest, unbiased opinion.

Question

I have a male friend,  older than me, whom I’ve known for 1–2 years. I genuinely like him and enjoy his company, but his repeated inconsistencies and possible dishonesty have affected my trust.

There’s also a mutual female friend. He sometimes speaks negatively about her but continues maintaining a close equation with her. I’ve noticed inconsistencies and dishonesty in what he tells me about their interactions.

Recently, I called him to meet. He said he was busy, but 10–15 minutes later I saw him coming downstairs with her. He later explained that he had coincidentally met her and she came to his house for some work. I found this difficult to believe, especially given our history.She genuinely likes him n is jealous of me.

When I confronted him, I became emotional. He comforted me, held my hand, hugged me and confessed that he liked me. He then tried to kiss me 3–4 times, but I repeatedly refused. He eventually apologised and said he wouldn’t bring up his feelings again.

I have feelings for him too, but I don’t trust his honesty or understand his intentions. I feel he may be creating romantic ambiguity with both of us.

Should I end the close friendship, stop meeting him personally and maintain only cordial contact? Am I right to be concerned, or am I overthinking? Please give me an honest, unbiased opinion.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

ok never trust a man and if he's dishonest you know what to do. 
I think he deserves a chance to know you also do have feelings for him as well but you have trust issues because of the things that happened before. 
either give him a chance to explain and change himself otherwise id go with your option of maintaining a cordial contact.