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“I had imagined an entire future with him, and letting go of that was probably the hardest part. He became such a big part of my life, and despite everything we went through, I’ll always cherish how we started, the little memories, the excitement, the sacrifices and the way we stood by each other during the toughest phase. But somewhere along the way, we missed out on experiencing a normal relationship. We never really got the time to understand each other, build a safe space and grow together without constantly dealing with external circumstances. Eventually, the little things started adding up. I started feeling like I was putting in more effort emotionally, financially and practically. It was never about expensive gifts, fancy dates or grand gestures. I just wanted consideration, initiative, reciprocity and someone who would willingly do the little things without having to be asked repeatedly. I wanted to feel cared for, understood and supported rather than having to constantly explain the basics of how I wanted to be treated. I didn’t want to feel like I was teaching my partner how to be a partner. I wanted someone who would take responsibility, make an effort, spend time with me outside the restrictions of college and make me feel like I had someone to rely on. Over time, these unmet expectations turned into resentment, and I realised that our differences weren’t just temporary issues but fundamental differences in how we approached relationships. I know he tried, and I’m genuinely grateful for all the good things, the memories and the times he made me happy. I’ll always appreciate how much he has grown and genuinely want him to achieve everything he’s dreamt of. But I don’t think I can keep asking for things that I believe should come naturally, nor do I want him to change himself just because I’ve repeatedly asked him to. The relationship had started feeling more emotionally draining than fulfilling, and I couldn’t imagine building a future with the same patterns. I didn’t want to continue just because we were comfortable with each other or because we’d invested so much time and emotion into it. What hurts me the most is that I wasn’t just losing a relationship but also my closest person, my friendship and the future I’d imagined. I still love him and will always cherish what we had, but I also know that love alone cannot make a relationship work. I didn’t want us to keep losing our ambitions, happiness and emotional energy trying to make something work when deep down I knew I couldn’t continue anymore. He’s begging for one last chance because he believes now that he knows each and every detail without filter he’ll do better no matter what it takes and acc to him this is our test to know if we’re really right for each other Is it worth it?”

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I understand this so much and relate to it so much because i am also one year into this relationship with this guy now. Some times its just that people are still learning how to be in a relationship, people adapt to few things eventually its a process from learning-building-growing and somehow everybody are not taught to love people how they want, express heavily. Its different for everybody. Not everything is a fairytale or anything that you see on social media. UNTIL THE PARTNER DOES NOT CHEAT ON YOU or is willing to change and give it a shot. You should. Communication is the key. Nothing was a fairy tale for me or for him we both learned it the hard way, he understood my needs sometimes and sometimes he didnt & its okay i didnt sometimes either. I have failed as a girlfriend a lot of days and he has too but yet he stuck with me. He did, i did. We are getting better, we have come a long way, hopefully it will get even more better eventually. AND for your question yes i think you should give it a chance trying and forgiving is only human. You only live once. Put all the ego aside and stop measuring things for a while and try communicating as much as possible everything will fall into place eventually 💖

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