I am someone who has a short temper. I get angry over small things, and when I am upset, I sometimes end up saying hurtful things to people. Later, I regret my words, apologise, and promise not to repeat the behaviour, but unfortunately, I end up doing it again. I am genuinely trying to change myself.

We were a group of three friends. One of them, A, was my best friend, and the other was B.

I became very attached to A, but she used to talk negatively about me behind my back to B. Later, a misunderstanding happened between A and me, and she stopped talking to me. I was very upset and cried in front of B. That's when B told me everything A used to say about me.

Eventually, I became closer to B and started treating A as just a normal friend. One of my mistakes was that I never told A what I had found out. Instead, I simply started distancing myself from her. Eventually, my friendship with A broke down, and B and I became best friends.

Over time, I became extremely close to B. I started considering her family and shared almost everything with her.

However, there was one problem. Whenever B made a mistake, I would sometimes get angry and raise my voice at her. She didn't like this behaviour. I apologised several times and explained that I behaved that way because I was so close to her that I felt she would understand me and that I could be completely comfortable around her. I promised not to repeat it, but unfortunately, I did it several times. I also felt that B made mistakes of her own, but she never really acknowledged them.

After some time, A approached me again, and I cleared things up with her. The three of us started spending time together again. However, I wasn't particularly fond of A anymore, so I would occasionally say negative things about her to B because I thought B was very close to me and I could share everything with her.

Recently, B and I had another argument, and I raised my voice at her again. I immediately realised my mistake and apologised. This time, I genuinely promised her that I would never repeat this behaviour.

But this time, she decided to change our friendship and treat me as just a normal friend, giving everyone the same importance. I didn't like this because I had become so emotionally attached to her.

I went to her and honestly expressed how I felt. I told her that I needed her, especially because I was going through a difficult emotional phase, and asked her to give me one last chance. I also told her that I didn't want her to give A more importance than me.

She didn't listen. After I left, she told A everything I had shared with her privately.

Eventually, A and B removed me from their group and left me alone.

I kept asking both of them to give me another chance, even though I don't believe the entire situation was my fault.

I feel extremely hurt and lonely now, and I am experiencing a lot of anxiety.
I accept what I did was wrong i accept that I should not have gotten angry over small things but I just asked her for a last chance instead she said to me that don't irritate me ,sorry I can not remain with u

Question

I am someone who has a short temper. I get angry over small things, and when I am upset, I sometimes end up saying hurtful things to people. Later, I regret my words, apologise, and promise not to repeat the behaviour, but unfortunately, I end up doing it again. I am genuinely trying to change myself.

We were a group of three friends. One of them, A, was my best friend, and the other was B.

I became very attached to A, but she used to talk negatively about me behind my back to B. Later, a misunderstanding happened between A and me, and she stopped talking to me. I was very upset and cried in front of B. That's when B told me everything A used to say about me.

Eventually, I became closer to B and started treating A as just a normal friend. One of my mistakes was that I never told A what I had found out. Instead, I simply started distancing myself from her. Eventually, my friendship with A broke down, and B and I became best friends.

Over time, I became extremely close to B. I started considering her family and shared almost everything with her.

However, there was one problem. Whenever B made a mistake, I would sometimes get angry and raise my voice at her. She didn't like this behaviour. I apologised several times and explained that I behaved that way because I was so close to her that I felt she would understand me and that I could be completely comfortable around her. I promised not to repeat it, but unfortunately, I did it several times. I also felt that B made mistakes of her own, but she never really acknowledged them.

After some time, A approached me again, and I cleared things up with her. The three of us started spending time together again. However, I wasn't particularly fond of A anymore, so I would occasionally say negative things about her to B because I thought B was very close to me and I could share everything with her.

Recently, B and I had another argument, and I raised my voice at her again. I immediately realised my mistake and apologised. This time, I genuinely promised her that I would never repeat this behaviour.

But this time, she decided to change our friendship and treat me as just a normal friend, giving everyone the same importance. I didn't like this because I had become so emotionally attached to her.

I went to her and honestly expressed how I felt. I told her that I needed her, especially because I was going through a difficult emotional phase, and asked her to give me one last chance. I also told her that I didn't want her to give A more importance than me.

She didn't listen. After I left, she told A everything I had shared with her privately.

Eventually, A and B removed me from their group and left me alone.

I kept asking both of them to give me another chance, even though I don't believe the entire situation was my fault.

I feel extremely hurt and lonely now, and I am experiencing a lot of anxiety.
I accept what I did was wrong i accept that I should not have gotten angry over small things but I just asked her for a last chance instead she  said to me that don't irritate me ,sorry I can not remain with u

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

mid story i thought B was your real friend. A SOUNDS very negative to me. You should've worked on yourself and can even work now. Maybe she cut you off and told A everything because she was hurt too.