I actually got into a relationship but genuinely I don't feel like I'm ready to be in one he pursued me for couple of months and I said no but he did end up convincing me and he's a really nice person there's no issue with him but I just think I live too much in my past trauma that i might just end up harming him I don't want to upset him but I don't think I can be in a happy stable relationship until I'm actually healed I don't know when it'll happen so I can't give him hope although it's only been a couple of weeks if I suddenly ghost him he'll feel so fucking bad but if I continue I'll end up hurting him more in the future what should I do

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

to be honest, you should just tell him. as a guy, something similar happened to me where a girl told me she liked me for the attention, and didn't like me for me, and tbh that hurt a lot. if you leave him like this, you're going to make him fall even more, and it'll hurt even worse when you tell him later on. The more you keep this a secret, the more it'll hurt the both of you. ever heard of the train station theory? the more you stay on the wrong train, the further away you are from home. its time to get off the train, the more you stay on the further away from home you are. you give yourself time to go back home, stay, and heal, and get back on the same, if not different train. please tell the guy soon, and i hope you do realize, what you did was wrong. and as a guy who experienced this, it hurt me so so so so much, but please, don't do this again. tell the guy, and just know your loved, and cared for okay?