“Hi i feel like my bf dont loves me he says he do but his action saying something else he said he wanna do sex even though he knows i dont wanna do and he was convincing me that how much efforts he is doing for me like coming my home whenever i called him to come and taking me for long drive paying me for food he is telling me he did all that efforts so i should do that same effort by doing sex with him but i said i dont wanna do that i explained him all the reasons and he said ok we wont meet from now he canceled out date and he said i got horny whenever we met so we will not met from now also i dont understand him today was childerens day i asked him why u did not wished me childrens day he said u are a grown girl 21 years old why should i wish u childrens day i replied i am ur baby? he said u are my baby but u are not a little baby that thing also make me feel awkward and he behaved hot and cold with me i already tried to talk abt it with him but nothing is changing i feel so down infront of him i feel like i am nothing”

Another soul answered...

First of all, I want you to understand one thing: you don't owe anyone your body, regardless of how much they have done for you. Coming to your house, taking you on drives, buying you food or spending time with you are things he chose to do because he wanted to. They are not investments that you have to repay through sex. A relationship should never feel like a transaction where one person keeps a record of their efforts and demands something in return. If he genuinely loves you, he should respect your boundaries even when they don't match his desires. Your "no" should be enough. You shouldn't have to explain or defend it repeatedly. Also, notice his behaviour. When you refuse to have sex, he cancels dates and says you shouldn't meet because he gets horny around you. Maybe he is struggling with his own desires, but making you feel guilty or withdrawing affection because you won't have sex is not a healthy way to handle that. Physical intimacy should come from mutual willingness, not pressure, guilt or fear of losing someone. And about the way he behaves hot and cold: please stop measuring your worth through his attention. You are not less lovable because you aren't ready for sex. You are not asking for too much by wanting affection, emotional security and respect. My genuine advice is to have one final honest conversation with him. Tell him clearly that you want a relationship where your boundaries are respected and affection isn't conditional on physical intimacy. Then pay attention to his actions, not just his promises. If he continues making you feel guilty, pressuring you or treating you differently whenever you say no, seriously reconsider whether this relationship is good for you. Remember this: The right person won't make you feel that you have to sacrifice your comfort to earn their love. You deserve to be loved, respected and valued, not made to feel indebted for receiving basic affection. Please don't lose yourself trying to convince someone to treat you right.