I like a boy and he's like in his 20s and I'm in my teens i don't know if my parents or his parents will accept us and even he lives in different city where my grandmother lives we were dating for 2 years but at some place point I know we can't be together but he loves me alot still I broke up with him cuz I don't want him to get hurt and more attached with me when there's no future of us but I miss him everyday I don't know what should I do now

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I think you made a difficult decision, not necessarily a wrong one. Sometimes we miss someone terribly even when we know that being together might not be the right choice. Missing him doesn't automatically mean you should go back to him.

You said you broke up because you didn't want him to get more attached when you couldn't see a future together. That tells me you were thinking about the consequences rather than just following your emotions. But please remember that you are not responsible for managing his feelings at the cost of your own peace.

There's something else I want you to think about. You mentioned that you're still in your teens while he's already in his 20s. That's an important age and life-stage difference. At this stage of your life, you deserve time to grow, understand yourself, focus on your education and experience life without feeling pressured to make adult relationship commitments. Someone who genuinely cares about you should respect your age, boundaries and pace.

My advice would be not to rush back into the relationship just because you miss him. Give yourself some time and distance. Don't keep reopening the wound by constantly checking his messages, photos or social media. Let yourself miss him without feeling that you have to act on those feelings.

And please, don't make promises about a future together that you aren't sure about. If he truly cares about you, he should respect your decision rather than pressure you, ask you to keep secrets or make you feel guilty.

Talk to someone you trust, especially an adult who has your well-being at heart. Be careful about meeting privately, sharing intimate pictures or keeping the relationship secret.

One day, you'll understand that not every person we love is someone we should build our future around. Sometimes choosing yourself is the hardest but healthiest decision.

You can miss someone, care about them and still choose not to be with them. Those feelings can exist together. Don't confuse missing him with making the wrong decision. Give yourself time. You have a whole life ahead of you. ❤️