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I think people absolutely can change, but I don't think change necessarily means becoming an entirely different person. I think our core is a little more complicated than that. We carry certain tendencies, fears, instincts and ways of understanding the world that may stay with us for a long time, but that doesn't mean we're doomed to act upon them forever. I think the real measure of change is what someone chooses to do with the parts of themselves they don't particularly like. Do they recognise them? Do they take accountability? Do they make a conscious effort not to let their unresolved issues become someone else's burden? Because recognising a flaw and repeatedly apologising for it isn't the same as working to change it. And I don't think change is always pretty or linear. Sometimes people relapse into old habits, sometimes they realise things about themselves years later, and sometimes they outgrow beliefs they once considered fundamental to who they were. But here's what I particularly believe; you don't have to stop being the person you were to become someone better. You just have to stop using who you were as an excuse for who you continue to be. I suppose I'd rather judge someone by the patterns they choose to break than by the mistakes they once made. After all, what is being human if not having the capacity to reconsider, unlearn and begin again? we as humans are gifted with time and conscience. if we aren't happy with the road we're travelling by-- remember we can always change our route.
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