“yea so basically I still remember my ex she was my first love It has been one year since we broke up. The grief is eating me up from inside. We broke up bcuz of my insecuities and she told me that she didnt feel the same for me. The grief of ruining the only genuine relationship I had. And hurting the most prettiest and lovely soul I have ever met”

Another soul answered...

Hurting someone in a process of the relationship is not abnormal. But the urge to fix the problem with the person is normal. Ruining a genuine connection may make you feel horrible but it also teaches you what led to that event. Finding a solution for every problem in a relationship is not the answer. Insecurities are common. The way our lives are made is influenced by many factors. Sometimes it takes courage to admit about someone's insecurities but once we find the triggering events to it try to communicate it with someone who you are feeling it with. Communication alone isnt enough to sustain a relationship, but understanding and having the maturity to accept the other person's effort and insecurities is an essential tool for a healthy and good relationship.