“Ya sorry about using ai at first, this is literally my first time posting on a app like this so i had no idea how to explain it all n just wanted help putting my thoughts into words. but everything i'm saying is 100% my real story.
He ended up blocking me on whatsapp and insta out of nowhere. i tried to contact him initially to understand what was going on. even though i'm blocked on his main accounts, he still follows me on threads from his secondary account, follows me on another secondary insta account, and still has my gmail account saved. Forgot to mention that I have his threads account me which I learned recently bcuz I’m not that active in social media.
As for my mom, J (my bf or my ex don’t know how to mention him) to used to be like family to us since we were so close. on sept 20th when he blocked me, he actually blocked my mom on whatsapp too. but my mom didn't check whatsapp so she had no idea she was blocked. when i sent my friend (let's call her B) to talk to J about meeting up and taking back his gifts, i told B to mention that my mom didn't even know he blocked her. as soon as B said that, J unblocked my mom on the spot. and after that, my mom actually reached out to him and they even had a short chat recently. so to me, the door felt half open, but whenever i asked for proper closure, J just kept pulling back. at first he said he wanted to meet up to talk. but then when i asked again he backed out and said he wasnt ready. i begged him a lot, and on sept 18th he finally called me. during that call i was so surprised because he sounded just like his old self. but literally 2 days after that call, he blocked me out of nowhere. it completely broke me mentally.after that i didnt text him directly. but i have a whole handbag full of all his gifts and stuff he gave me. i cant bring myself to throw them away, so when B went to ask him to meet me just once to get closure and take his stuff back, he refused and said if i dont want the stuff i should just give it to a mutual friend of ours (let's call him A, who we've known since 11th/12th grade).i was so disappointed again. then after going to counseling and getting my emotions a bit more stable, i sent a voice note through my friend telling him that i'm in a better headspace now, there wont be an emotional scene, i just want to see him once to give his stuff back and get closure. and he STILL said "sorry i cant come" and told me again to just hand the stuff over to friend A.so now im just sitting here holding onto all these gifts wanting to give them back, stuck in this loop. after 12th grade, we chose the exact same career path, did all our training together, and even applied to go abroad through the same agency. but right after our first interview, all this chaos started happening. i want to share what really happened before all of this too. it mainly starts from last year, when he met with an accident on july 18th. i feel like i need to explain everything starting from that timeline so everyone can see the full picture and give me different perspectives and advice on what to do. but i just need a little time to write it all out, right now im preparing for my exams. ill definitely post the rest as soon as i get time.
Also to answer whether the love or effort was only from my side—no, it definitely wasn’t just from my end at all. he was actually the one who proposed to me first back in 2023 when i was 16 and he was 17. we were in the same batch in school, but his almost a year older than me. he was honestly such a perfect partner back then and i know for a fact that he loved me deeply.
even our anniversary is in february, and just this past february he took the initiative for us to go out to the beach together and gifted me that exact handbag and a glass. we even traveled to hyderabad together like 3 or 4 times, and our last trip there was just in june. all of this sudden distance and chaos only really started happening between late july and early september. as for the rest of the effort part, once i share the whole story starting from his accident last year, i think it’ll make a lot more sense to everyone, so we can talk more about it after i post that.And thankyou both of you and thankyou for reading this a lot and nalla movies”
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Someone answered with kindness...
I understand you da...its completely okay to go through these feelings. As u said Idk the full story like the before part of the chaos...maybe that might help to give u a more better advice like thing...but I feel like u deserve some comfort right now....its okay everything will be alright...from ur story i feel like both of u guys love/ loved each other so much but u dont know whats going through his head or mind, I guess? U cant figure out everything by urself le? Watch ur comfort movies and do the things I love right now....he will eventually come and be able to face u....and if he doesn't, thats okay....just love isn't enough in some cases u know....if he cant communicate abt something with u it isn't ur fault...I hope u get a good closure doesn't matter its a happy or sad ending to this relationship....I can assure u that u gonna be happy