Someone once asked...
Someone answered with kindness...
A student once told me he felt like a failure. He was twenty-two. I asked him, failure compared to what? He named three friends, their jobs, their apartments. I told him: you're not measuring yourself against them. You're measuring yourself against a version of you that has everything, right now, with none of the years it usually takes. Comparison isn't really about other people. It's a private argument between who you are and who you think you should already be. The other people are just props you've borrowed for the fight.
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Another soul answered...
It happens often and it's actually really sad. People always want something they don't have and are dissatisfied with what they already have. You'll never be able to stop comparing yourself to others, but you need to realize that you also have something that others would envy and want too.
Another soul answered...
your too arrogant to your self
Another soul answered...
your brain uses social comparison as an automatic cognitive function and an evolutionary survival tool to measure your standing in a group