Someone once asked...
Someone answered with kindness...
A man once told me he'd trained himself to expect disaster, because being disappointed by a good outcome felt safer than being blindsided by a bad one. I asked him to count how many disasters he'd successfully prevented by predicting them in advance. He paused. None, obviously. The worst still happened when it happened, regardless of how thoroughly he'd rehearsed it. All the bracing had bought him was a thousand extra hours of suffering, for events that mostly never came. Expecting the worst doesn't protect you from it. It just makes sure you suffer twice — once in your head, and once for real, if it ever actually arrives.