“What do I do?
About 1½ years ago, some random guy from my church (who is basically 2, 3, or 4 years older than me) asked me if I had a boyfriend. I was 16 at the time, studying in +2, and I said, "Yes, I have a boyfriend," even though I didn't. I wasn't interested in a relationship, and I didn't want to lead him on.
As the days passed, I started noticing him and thinking about him. Basically, I became obsessed with him! I wished he would message me again.
Then, about a year later, around four months ago, he messaged me again. I had moved away to a different place, not too far but still far enough. He told me that he had a crush on me, and I told him that I wasn't interested in a relationship.
He doesn't know that I have a crush on him. But I don't think I want a relationship either. However, he's still messaging me, sending me reels, and everything.
I wanted to stop leading him on, so I thought about not replying to his messages. But he said that I wasn't giving him any hope and asked me not to ignore him and not to block him either. I am not able to ignore his messages because I like him.
I don't know what to do. Am I a bad person?🥲”
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Someone answered with kindness...
No I don't think you are a bad person you are just confused whether you need a relationship or not I have been in a similar situation and the best way for you to find out would be take some time to think about it just take 2 weeks or 1 month time and ignore him completely just move on with your life if without his constant attention if you feel like you like him then talk to him again