Well this is going to be long so sorry in advance hehe

I am 20 and so far have not had any romantic relationships yet. I do not want to rush into something which isnt for me. That is one of my principles. Nor am i driven by lust since if i just wanted to fuck, i could've done so quite easily. But my mind just doesnt work like that.
I also find it quite hard to find someone who is interesting to me. So far i've only found two girls interesting. In the past i have went up and talked to the person who i found interesting while making my intentions pretty clear and it did not go well for me.
First one played me twice the same way. I talked to her for two months and got to know her and confessed and unexpectedly she said she liked me too, but then she offered excuses that she cannot be in a relationship right now and i told her i can wait and she was delighted and agreed. All the excuses she gave was very legitimate so my dumbass just agreed and made up even more excuses for her and both times she used me as a rebound and went back to her toxic (her own words not mine) ex. Took me almost 2 years to move on and finally realise it was all her fault and i did nothing wrong.

In my first year of university, i found another girl cute but she was very reserved and of another nationality. When i first saw her i just noticed her cool sweater and thought oh nice sweater and didnt think much of it. But then i saw her more and more and developed a crush. And one day when the chance came i went up to her and talked to her a bit and told her that i found her pretty cute and wanted to get to know her and she respectfully told me she was already talking to someone and i said oh alright cool and went my way. (May have fumbled the talking part a bit but whatever)
See, if that was it then it would've been fine because ik how to accept rejection and would've been chilling. But her friend who is in my class contacted my friend and asked about me and asked my friend whether i was still interested in talking to her. And i said yea obviously. And after a month we started texting and went on for a like 2 months. She did not accept my meet up 2 invitations btw but lowkey her excuses were valid and i understood but after the second one i just stopped texting her since i noticed a shift in energy. Then we had our 2 month break and no contact at all. And she did not reach out so i decided she is not interested. After uni reopened, i used to see her on the corridors and initially MY HEART used to beat out of my chest whenever i saw her and i would ignore her. But after a week i smiled when passing past her and said hi and SHE STOPPED and asked me how are you and some questions and we had a small convo and we went on our way and since then everytime we saw each other we used to stop and talk and stuff. Then one random day i received this follow request on instagram from an account i was unfamiliar with. It was a girl fan account type shit. I used my amazing stalking skills and realised that it was indeed her account since most of the followers and following were mutuals of hers. But i sent a text asking who it was and she said its me and that it was for a university assignment and she texted from her main account and we started texting again. It was soooo amazing. Much better than last time. She texted me when she was walking to her place, between breaks, at night etc. Went on for a solid 3 weeks and she also made a bet in a way that it was like a date which she scheduled for a certain day. SHE did btw not me. But unfortunately it had to postponed and shit. The texting went on for a solid 3 weeks or so and one day, i saw her with this girl ive never seen her with before walking and i tried to make our usual corridor convo and she looked very sad and off. So after class i texted her whether she was okay and that she seemed down, she replied she was alright, it was just a lot of club work she had. Later i was in the gym and we were texting between sets and she dropped a random thing. She was like oh theres this girl in my class who keeps asking her about me.

I was obviously very weirded out by this statement. But i was like ay wth who and why she asking about me. She replied with oh i cannot tell you who it is and that she saw instagram mutuals and asked her how she knew me.

I said well anyways unfortunately for her theres already someone i am interested in (DUH ITS YOU U DUMB FUCK). I asked her what she replied to her question and What her reply made my heart sink. She apparently told that girl that she knew me through her friend and we were friends and nothing more. I replied okay or something since i did not know what to do at that point. Then we texted normally that night and she sent me her dinner pic and stuff and then from the next day onwards the energy shifted and started getting more dry and i asked her about it asw but she just said she was busy with the club work she had. So i patiently waited for her club event to get over but even then the replies were dry and once a day type shit. I knew it was bad but i decided to give her one more chance and since that bet date thing we made was coming up that week and i asked when i was getting that thing she promised to buy me since i won the bet and she said "IDK😭😭😭" then i asked well lets figure it out together and asked her when she was free. AND BOOM NO REPLY ghosted.

And the more awkward thing is we HAVE to see each other in uni everyday.
Straight went from exchanging playlists, stickers, banter, talks to ghosting. The switch up messed me up so bad i STARTED PLAYING SUBWAY SURFERS FOR 3 HOURS STRAIGHT TO GET IT OUT OF MY MIND, TALK TO A FRIEND WHO I HAVENT IN MONTHS, talk to AI, checking those "each star sign and their traits" mumbo jumbo etc.

Lowkey ik i should do some work but lol idk what to see of this situation. Ik for sure she is an avoidant and last week she had reacted with a heart to my instant. (She had never reacted to anything before at all btw). She also has my cats on her pinterest btw LIKE WHAT BRO leave me alone.

Anyways i would like to hear thoughts on this and yea if you read this whole thing dang thanks :D

Question

Well this is going to be long so sorry in advance hehe

I am 20 and so far have not had any romantic relationships yet. I do not want to rush into something which isnt for me. That is one of my principles. Nor am i driven by lust since if i just wanted to fuck, i could've done so quite easily. But my mind just doesnt work like that. 
I also find it quite hard to find someone who is interesting to me. So far i've only found two girls interesting. In the past i have went up and talked to the person who i found interesting while making my intentions pretty clear and it did not go well for me. 
First one played me twice the same way. I talked to her for two months and got to know her and confessed and unexpectedly she said she liked me too, but then she offered excuses that she cannot be in a relationship right now and i told her i can wait and she was delighted and agreed. All the excuses she gave was very legitimate so my dumbass just agreed and made up even more excuses for her and both times she used me as a rebound and went back to her toxic (her own words not mine) ex. Took me almost 2 years to move on and finally realise it was all her fault and i did nothing wrong.

In my first year of university, i found another girl cute but she was very reserved and of another nationality. When i first saw her i just noticed her cool sweater and thought oh nice sweater and didnt think much of it. But then i saw her more and more and developed a crush. And one day when the chance came i went up to her and talked to her a bit and told her that i found her pretty cute and wanted to get to know her and she respectfully told me she was already talking to someone and i said oh alright cool and went my way. (May have fumbled the talking part a bit but whatever)
See, if that was it then it would've been fine because ik how to accept rejection and would've been chilling. But her friend who is in my class contacted my friend and asked about me and asked my friend whether i was still interested in talking to her. And i said yea obviously. And after a month we started texting and went on for a like 2 months. She did not accept my meet up 2 invitations btw but lowkey her excuses were valid and i understood but after the second one i just stopped texting her since i noticed a shift in energy. Then we had our 2 month break and no contact at all. And she did not reach out so i decided she is not interested.  After uni reopened, i used to see her on the corridors and initially MY HEART used to beat out of my chest whenever i saw her and i would ignore her. But after a week i smiled when passing past her and said hi and SHE STOPPED and asked me how are you and some questions and we had a small convo and we went on our way and since then everytime we saw each other we used to stop and talk and stuff. Then one random day i received this follow request on instagram from an account i was unfamiliar with. It was a girl fan account type shit. I used my amazing stalking skills and realised that it was indeed her account since most of the followers and following were mutuals of hers. But i sent a text asking who it was and she said its me and that it was for a university assignment and she texted from her main account and we started texting again. It was soooo amazing. Much better than last time. She texted me when she was walking to her place, between breaks, at night etc. Went on for a solid 3 weeks and she also made a bet in a way that it was like a date which she scheduled for a certain day. SHE did btw not me. But unfortunately it had to postponed and shit. The texting went on for a solid 3 weeks or so and one day, i saw her with this girl ive never seen her with before walking and i tried to make our usual corridor convo and she looked very sad and off. So after class i texted her whether she was okay and that she seemed down, she replied she was alright, it was just a lot of club work she had. Later i was in the gym and we were texting between sets and she dropped a random thing. She was like oh theres this girl in my class who keeps asking her about me.

I was obviously very weirded out by this statement. But i was like ay wth who and why she asking about me. She replied with oh i cannot tell you who it is and that she saw instagram mutuals and asked her how she knew me.

I said well anyways unfortunately for her theres already someone i am interested in (DUH ITS YOU U DUMB FUCK). I asked her what she replied to her question and What her reply made my heart sink. She apparently told that girl that she knew me through her friend and we were friends and nothing more. I replied okay or something since i did not know what to do at that point. Then we texted normally that night and she sent me her dinner pic and stuff and then from the next day onwards the energy shifted and started getting more dry and i asked her about it asw but she just said she was busy with the club work she had. So i patiently waited for her club event to get over but even then the replies were dry and once a day type shit. I knew it was bad but i decided to give her one more chance and since that bet date thing we made was coming up that week and i asked when i was getting that thing she promised to buy me since i won the bet and she said "IDK😭😭😭" then i asked well lets figure it out together and asked her when she was free. AND BOOM NO REPLY ghosted.

And the more awkward thing is we HAVE to see each other in uni everyday. 
Straight went from exchanging playlists, stickers, banter, talks to ghosting. The switch up messed me up so bad i STARTED PLAYING SUBWAY SURFERS FOR 3 HOURS STRAIGHT TO GET IT OUT OF MY MIND, TALK TO A FRIEND WHO I HAVENT IN MONTHS, talk to AI, checking those "each star sign and their traits" mumbo jumbo etc.

Lowkey ik i should do some work but lol idk what to see of this situation. Ik for sure she is an avoidant and last week she had reacted with a heart to my instant. (She had never reacted to anything before at all btw). She also has my cats on her pinterest btw LIKE WHAT BRO leave me alone.

Anyways i would like to hear thoughts on this and yea if you read this whole thing dang thanks :D

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

That's really messed up. She's trying to play push and pull. LOL! Anyway, she doesn't deserve much attention, you know. Just don't talk to her, hell don't even look at her. Treat her like a wind 'coz if you continue thinking about what happened over and over again, you'll just be disappointed and eventually it'll became a hatred. Just stop. Let things happened naturally, no need for forcing or anything. If you need to run through the process of healing, do so but stop with playing along with her games. Clearly, she's not fully interested in you based on her excuses everytime and the ghosting part. Have you heard of girls who's only interested in you because other girls noticed and interested in you as well? Yeah, they only see your worth when someone is interested in you. They'll choose you not because they wanted, they'll choose you to tell the other person's who's interested in you that SHE is more attractive than the other person. So, yeah.