“Well i broke up with my girlfriend of 2 months a month back and now that i look back on it i know i would never take her back but parallely i miss the moments the romance and she technically dumped me for no good reason. The reason she gave me was that she didn't want to pursue our relationship cuz her heart wasn't in it anymore and that she kept trying to force herself to love me or sumn. And also that she just doesn't know how to talk/ communicate with others and that it would be unfair to both of us if she tried to stay. Something similar happened a few weeks before this where her parents got to know about us and brainwashed her over the weekend into thinking being in a relationship was wrong but then at that point i could get it that she actually had a lot of things on her plate. But this, this was complete cold-blooded abandonment. I later got to know from her friend that she told her that she lost feelings and couldn't be open w me throughout. What i don't get is, I've tried and had made it my goal in our relationship that both of us could talk to each other about anything and yet how'd she feel insecure? When i told her previously that we should end it if this is not mutually beneficial then she told i just need time and i was like okay then thats what I'll give her; all just for her to leave when it pleased her. What hurts is to know that u truly deeply loved someone and they just acted it out and left when it pleased them.”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Sometimes you can't really force someone to love you , or stay for you. If she doesn't want to be with you anymore, there doesn't have to be some deep meaningful reason behind it , she might simply not be into you and that's okayy! Love should feel like breathing, it should come easily, constantly trying to save it and making constant efforts everytime sometimes isn't the option, you just learn to let go.
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Another soul answered...
Hey buddy. I can surely relate to your story because 3 months ago my girlfriend just brokeup our 2 year relationship because her parents got to know about us and she left me saying that she want to focus on herself and I should focus on myself further, and it was heartbreaking for me and at first I couldn't just digest the fact that she just left me when thi gs got hard. But now after I have spent 3 month in no contact I realised definitely there was a lot of love But also anxious attachment due to which I made my whole world revolve around her, and didn't know how to live in her presence and with time I have realised that I lost myself in loving that person. So all I can do was to let her go because you did all you could do to save that relationship and now the things are not in our control. So just take all the learnings, that you will never put someone else in front of you and no one have the right to make you feel that way, and just let her go because what happens, happens for a reason.🤍