This is a bit complicated, but I’ll try to explain.
There’s this girl I used to like. We have a mutual friend who is also my really close friend, and the three of us hang out together quite often.
At some point, I started feeling that the girl I liked probably didn’t feel the same way about me. I eventually had a conversation about it with my best friend, and after understanding the situation better, I decided to accept it and move on.
But here’s where things get complicated.
Somewhere along the way, I started developing feelings for my best friend instead. Honestly, I didn’t expect this to happen, and I’m not even sure when or how it started.
The catch is that my best friend and the girl I initially liked are friends, and we still hang out together.
Now I’m confused about what to do. I don’t know whether I should tell my best friend how I feel or keep it to myself because I genuinely value our friendship. I’m also worried about how this might affect the existing friendship dynamic between the three of us.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Would you be honest about your feelings or keep things as they are to avoid complicating the friendship?

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Well this happened to me, so I had a crush on a one of my close friends and I didn't want to mess up the friendship, just like you and then well he himself confessed his feelings about it and let me tell you how he did it, He just asked me like a 1000 times if we will be good friends even after this, even if my answer was no, so at some point it was very obvious about what he had to say.
If your feelings are very strong and you think that it feels real, then go ahead and confess and if you're really good friends, then either it will be a yes or you will stay good friends just like right now you're, so you gotta take your shot before someone else does and then you just drown in some regret or sorrow about not doing in earlier,