“There's this guy in college whom I slowly started developing feelings for. He made me feel cared for in a way I hadn't felt in a long time. There were tight hugs, forehead kisses and little things that made me feel like I meant more to him. But whenever I tried to understand what was happening between us, he said he saw me only as his younger sister. I confronted him about it once, but even after saying that, he took my dupatta and walked away with it. I eventually ignored him for days. Then we randomly ran into each other on campus, and he took me along with him, didn't really let me leave, fed me biryani with his own hands, took my clutch, clicked pictures with me with his hand around my waist. And somehow, he still says he sees me as a sister. What confuses me even more is that when I started hanging out with another guy, he got jealous and scolded me repeatedly for spending time with him. I don't know what he wants from me, but I know those mixed signals affected me because I genuinely felt something for him.
And then there's a senior I've been considering keeping things casual with. He's shown interest in me, and part of me thinks I want it, but another part of me keeps questioning whether I'm making that choice because I genuinely want it or because I like the attention. I'm still figuring out my boundaries, and I don't want to get into something just to end up feeling emotionally confused again.
I think I'm just tired of trying to understand what everyone wants from me while I'm still figuring out what I want myself
What do I do???? IDEK whether this casuals w my senior is ethically and morally right or wrong help me what do i do?????”
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Someone answered with kindness...
His behaviour is NOT just a brotherly affection. His actions heavily contradict his words. Maybe, he himself is confused with his feelings. I don't really know. Also, I feel like the attraction you feel towards the senior is just the need for attention and not a real feelings, YKWIM? So I'd say just wait for sometime before taking a firm decision. Also, i heavily think that the first guy likes you. Maybe, you should try telling him that you're 'dating' someone to gauge his reaction, and later tell him that you js wanted to prank him. I'm sure from his reaction, you'd understand whether he likes you or not. And if he's still being confusing, counter him straight forward. Tell him that his attention towards you feels too weird for a brotherly affection. Somehow make him accept that he likes you, and tell him that you like him as well. I'm not the best at giving advices so, you don't have to consider it, if you don't wish to.