Someone once asked...

“There's a colleague of mine who likes someone else. Unfortunately, I had a crush on him, but I've moved on. We're still colleagues, though. I wouldn't call him a friend because he likes talking about himself and rarely asks about my well-being. I feel like this has become a pattern where I keep ending up with emotionally unavailable people, even in friendships.”

Update · 2026-11-10

I try not to have any expectations, but the problem is that he constantly talks about his crush, who doesn't even look at him or talk to him. He gets depressed about it and ends up sharing all those feelings with me. Sometimes, I feel like I'm just his emotional dumping ground.

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Someone answered with kindness...

Stop expecting emotional support from others. Try to feel better with the way you are and always be happy. You don't opinions of others for making yourself feel happy.

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Another soul answered...

Did the right thing. The efforts or the care should be shown from the both the sides. If not, backing off is the best thing you'll do for yourself. Coming to friendships, that's not a pattern okay. I agree, these days most of the people are emotionally unavailable but if we do find someone different than this, they'll stay with us through thick and thin. Just manifest for that! Time has everything for everyone.

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