There is this guy is used to like at my gym.
Had a sort of crush on him slowly we started talking and gre really close and he told me that he is more into casual relationships and physical ones whereas my pov is kinda different i just want to have 1 long term bf kinda , over the past few days we have been spending time alone and i genuinely enjoys his company there have been times where he has flirted with me . Now there isn't smthing romantic going on we meet and have conversations but still in my mind what i believe is i will just talk to him and get over it soon but the way I have slowly started inserting him in my routine is kinda concerning. I am emotional and possessive person , not just with my crush but even my friends and since he is my friend now i feel kinda possessive that he should talk to me only but he doesn't owe me that right!? So now idk how to behave in this kinda relationship.

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There is this guy is used to like at my gym. 
Had a sort of crush on him slowly we started talking and gre really close and he told me that he is more into casual relationships and physical ones whereas my pov is kinda different i just want to have  1 long term bf kinda , over the past few days we have been spending time alone and i genuinely enjoys his company there have been times where he has flirted with me . Now there isn't smthing romantic going on we meet and have conversations but still in my mind what i believe is i will just talk to him and get over it soon but the way I have slowly started inserting him in my routine is kinda concerning.  I am emotional and possessive person , not just with my crush but even my friends and since he is my friend now i feel kinda possessive that he should talk to me only but he doesn't owe me that right!? So now idk how to behave in this kinda relationship.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Being possesive towards a person you have crush on or you feel like he is your friend now is not wrong, because everything you feel about him is real and you don't have to change something you don't want to change just because of his opinion on relationships. You can stay with your own opinion on things and being possesive is not wrong because you feel like the other person gives you more priority than others and it's not wrong but you have to expect that from a person where the other person is also wanted the same with you. In your situation, yes you can be possesive but you can't control how he feels about it . So, you already said you will get over soon, all the best on that and don't punish yourself for feeling this way because other person's response doesn't erase your feelings. All the best in your life and I wish you will get over him and do best in life .🩵