The thing is i am in a healthy relationship for about 1 nd a half year but before all of this. I had a crush on a guy nd he was giving me mixed signals i proposed him and he rejected me. During that time i was talking with this guy with whom i am in a relationship. Now lets imagine my crush is N and the current guy i am in a relation with S, so i blocked N and i tried to move on, during this time i was also talking with S and i caught feelings for S. Now i realized i never truly moved on from N. What should i do

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The thing is i am in a healthy relationship for about 1 nd a half year but before all of this. I had a crush on a guy nd he was giving me mixed signals i proposed him and he rejected me. During that time i was talking with this guy with whom i am in a relationship. Now lets imagine my crush is N and the current guy i am in a relation with S, so i blocked N and i tried to move on, during this time i was also talking with S and i caught feelings for S. Now  i realized i never truly moved on from N. What should i do

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

tbh, it's a pretty sticky situation, and unfortunately not that uncommon. i'd say you sit with yourself, figure yourself out, your feelings and everything because after that, the step you take might decide everything, so you need to be sure of what you're doing.

if after thinking hard and long, you still feel like you'd be happier with N, then i'd say break it off with S, because to be fair, S does not deserve to be tagged along while you're unsure about this relationship.

and do not break it off with S in hoped of getting together with N, as you mentioned N was always giving you mixed signals.

now the choice is yours, be in this half asssed relationship with S while you're unsure, or let S go with the uncertainty of N ever claiming you.