soooo my best friend (let's call them friend a) and another super close friend (b) of mine started dating like two weeks ago and in general we had like a little trio at first and now i feel like i'm losing both of them to each other haha. b told me they'd tell me about the relationship "if i asked about it", which basically means i'd never have found out if it wasn't for a dropping hints to me for a few days and then my suspicions being confirmed by a. a and i used to talk super often and over the past few months it's dwindled, even though we're still close. b used to tell me things, important things, but before the relationship started b told a something i was involved in first but didn't tell me until later, which i totally get - you're entitled to tell whoever whenever - but it still stings because it was something i was told about and informed of at first. so yeah to sum it up a and b have been getting closer even though i used to be the glue of the trio, but that's not really my issue; i just feel replaced
i ALSO know i might be being the ass here so...? what are your thoughts? is this normal?

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soooo my best friend (let's call them friend a) and another super close friend  (b) of mine started dating like two weeks ago and in general we had like a little trio at first and now i feel like i'm losing both of them to each other haha. b told me they'd tell me about the relationship "if i asked about it", which basically means i'd never have found out if it wasn't for a dropping hints to me for a few days and then my suspicions being confirmed by a.  a and i used to talk super often and over the past few months it's dwindled, even though we're still close. b used to tell me things, important things, but before the relationship started b told a something i was involved in first but didn't tell me until later, which i totally get - you're entitled to tell whoever whenever - but it still stings because it was something i was told about and informed of at first. so yeah to sum it up  a and b have been getting closer even though i used to be the glue of the trio, but that's not really my issue; i just feel replaced
i ALSO know i might be being the ass here so...? what are your thoughts? is this normal?

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

hello love,first of all its COMPLETELY normal to feel like this because it's sudden change but u shpuld tell them about how you are feeling about them right now . let communication take the flow forward and as time passes by at some point you'll have to get used to it because the status of the relationship between u three has changed u r indeed their friend/bestfriend/close-friend but ur two frnds r dating now obv things change anyways talk to them first. hope u find peace love