Soo, there's this guy (let's call him S) and he was in a relationship till the start of the year but they broke off because the girl (let's call her N) wasn't putting in efforts like he was. We met on hinge and later connected on instagram. Into a week, he asked me out but I wasn't ready to say yes so he said he can wait but we are definitely talking with that intention only. The long game equation, considering each other definitely. But then he went on this trip with his friends for almost a week, the first two days we were talking and even confessed to each other but then he ghosted. I reached out and everything was back to normal but he still felt a bit off. After a month, I called him out and we talked abt the problem. But here's what changed after the trip. 1, he didn't want ldr anymore. 2, he confessed he was still coming out of his past and it's hard for him sometimes. And 3, recently, he said he didn't want anything serious anymore. But he said we are considering each other, whatever is between us is very dear to him as well, and even said so many stuff as if we are already together. In a sense, we are just without any label. The problem is he ghosted me again. And it's killing me. What should I do? Since reaching out if defo not an option on my cards.

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Soo, there's this guy (let's call him S) and he was in a relationship till the start of the year but they broke off because the girl (let's call her N) wasn't putting in efforts like he was. We met on hinge and later connected on instagram.  Into a week, he asked me out but I wasn't ready to say yes so he said he can wait but we are definitely talking with that intention only. The long game equation, considering each other definitely.  But then he went on this trip with his friends for almost a week, the first two days we were talking and even confessed to each other but then he ghosted. I reached out and everything was back to normal but he still felt a bit off. After a month, I called him out and we talked abt the problem. But here's what changed after the trip. 1, he didn't want ldr anymore. 2, he confessed he was still coming out of his past and it's hard for him sometimes.  And 3, recently,  he said he didn't want anything serious anymore. But he said we are considering each other, whatever is between us is very dear to him as well, and even said so many stuff as if we are already together.  In a sense, we are just without any label. The problem is he ghosted me again. And it's killing me. What should I do? Since reaching out if defo not an option on my cards.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I think you should stop reaching out and let him figure things out himself. You’ve already communicated how you feel, and he knows where you stand. If he genuinely wants this, he needs to show it through his actions, not just words. I understand he might still be healing, but you can't keep putting yourself through uncertainty because of that. Give him space, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him. You deserve consistency too, not just sweet words and disappearing acts 
Alright?
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