So there's a guy lowk want to tell the whole story here so if you're willing to read it so tysm 🫶.
We have been friends since like 6 years and we were each other's bsf but not in a clingy way just like if you need me I'm here and we always maintained our boundaries when we were frnds. But then one day our mutual frnd start teasing him like should I tell her wht you said 4 yrs ago ( for context we were in 9th class ) and then I asked him what was it like so many times then he said he always had a crush on my for like years and still likes me and tbh I was so shocked and happy at the same time and flashbacks were coming how fun our friendship is . I also liked him for a short period but did not want to accept it bcz he knows that I have a big crush on his bsf 😭 ik it sounds weird that's why I just never thought that I'll start liking him but when he asked me to date him I just wanted to be with him and give it a try rather than Regretting . So our relationship lasted for 6 months and 12 days and it was hard being with him but I always wanted it to work out so I ignored so many things like sometimes he used to drink like 3 times when we were together and 2 times after the breakup also he asked me for some pictures yk.. but I had that rule that I'll never share my pictures with anyone still he asked me like thrice but when I didn't send it and he misbehaved he always apologise. Now I miss him so badly and want to go back and forget all the bad parts once when he was drunk he sent me msgs and asked me to fix it . Idk wht should I do can anyone please please advice me . Idk I'm just soo attached to him and it's been 12 days but every single day I end up crying and at first it was so hard like throwing up and all. I keep missing him 24/7 and still have that thought that I'll tell him this and that but it hurts sm to remember we don't talk anymore. It hurts to remember the potential and how good it was so should I try again?? He isn't a bad guy just make mistakes alot but doesn't wantbto hurt me and he hasn't asked me to get back together not even once bcz he thinks that it my choice and I want it and will be more happy like this bcz I always used to say let's end this relationship after every fight but this time when he agreed it was hurting sm ..

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So there's a guy lowk want to tell the whole story here so if you're willing to read it so tysm 🫶.
We have been friends since like 6 years and we were each other's bsf but not in a clingy way just like if you need me I'm here and we always maintained our boundaries when we were frnds.  But then one day our mutual frnd start teasing him like should I tell her wht you said 4 yrs ago ( for context we were in 9th class ) and then I asked him what was it like so many times then he said he always had a crush on my for like years and still likes me and tbh I was so shocked and happy at the same time and flashbacks were coming how fun our friendship is . I also liked him for a short period but did not want to accept it bcz he knows that I have a big crush on his bsf 😭 ik it sounds weird that's why I just never thought that I'll start liking him but when he asked me to date him I just wanted to be with him and give it a try rather than Regretting . So our relationship lasted for 6 months and 12 days and it was hard being with him but I always wanted it to work out so I ignored so many things like sometimes he used to drink like 3 times when we were together and 2 times after the breakup also he asked me for some pictures yk.. but I had that rule that I'll never share my pictures with anyone still he asked me like thrice but when I didn't send it and he misbehaved he always apologise. Now I miss him so badly and want to go back and forget all the bad parts once when he was drunk he sent me msgs and asked me to fix it . Idk wht should I do can anyone please please advice me . Idk I'm just soo attached to him and it's been 12 days but every single day I end up crying and at first it was so hard like throwing up and all.  I keep missing him 24/7 and still have that thought that I'll tell him this and that but it hurts sm to remember we don't talk anymore.  It hurts to remember the potential and how good it was so should I try again?? He isn't a bad guy just make mistakes alot but doesn't wantbto hurt me and he hasn't asked me to get back together not even once bcz he thinks that it my choice and I want it and will be more happy like this bcz I always used to say let's end this relationship after every fight but this time when he agreed it was hurting sm ..

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Take some time to reflect on ur self . Where yu only think about ntg but you. My strong advice is to love yourself more than anyone in the world. Because in that case evn if yu get heartbroken or someone did u dirty , yu would be hurting yes but not entirely attached to the person n mourn over them. Because the thing that self love does to yu is wonders. Yu may think it's silly, but once yu start to love urself n put urself before others (not in a narcissistic way 😭) , you'll start to see everything around yu in a different perspective. And it also helps yu to overcome anything n leave yu to believe in yourself no matter what. As for this relationship, yu saw this person's actual side not as a frnd but as a partner in  relationship. Frst step ,  acceptance. Accept what's the result. When u learn to accept it , ntg can change the way yu see it . And yes you are allowed to mourn over this guy Obv, jus don't entirely let this person ruin your mental health. Focus on yourself for a while. Try to journal your thoughts , listen to your favourite music, EATTTT and definitely get some sleep. All is well🫶🏼