“So there is this guy i talk to online, well he is in my school but we never even say hi to each other,its been over a year and i have become attached to him. The problem is that i think i frequently self doubt myself. When i find a slightest change in the way he text or send some different stickers,i feel like its my fault and i def did something wrong or made him mad. Even tho i didnt even do anything and then that convo replays in my head for days..i keep thinking what would have happened?should i ask? Is it my fault? Is it something related to me?does he need space? Or does he wants me to ask? Idk these things keep coming in my mind and i feel so anxious and guilty,sometimes even hate myself and point out my insecurities…i feel like i should be alone so then i would never feel like this,but i am alone and i have no friend i can count on except him. I was so happy at the start that i finally found my person,someone i can easily call my bsf and no one will ever take my place in his life. Then in june 2026,he sent me a reel and said “sent by my hg” 💔💔 i thought I was the hg,but it was never me,im never gonna be someone’s actual bsf…i think im really sensitive and i am not cool but i was cool i swear idk what happened to me and i know being sensitive does not mean i cant be cool..i just compare myself constantly to his hg and again hate myself for the way i am and always be. I dont even have anyone to open up to so i just sometimes cry because of how much his words hurt me and he has no idea. Sometimes i feel if i tell him it would hurt him more that his words hurt me…stupid ik and i also dont want him thinking i was jealous. I just wanna be someone’s twin too..and its nov now and im still really affected by his words. What the fack..”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Take some time and try to talk to him irl. Don't make your whole day dependent on his mood as it can turn into a pattern you eventually cannot get out of. Communication is key, talk it out to him don't ruin ur sleep over it. If by any chance you think there's 'another woman' then girl don't waste ur time. You can't try to eventually tell him ur feelings so that you have clarity over the situation.
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Wandering voices — answers no one has read yet
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Another soul answered...
Heyya...look ik how hurtful u feel rn...but y u chase to be someone's twin...something u chase can easily gone outta ur hands uk that right unless they feel or reciprocate the same priority like u did...as of the situation he didnt prioritize u like u did u were jus one among his online frnd maybe( givin reality check uhn) n ur mood shld'nt depend on someone else EVER( based on xp🤡) jus start focusing on urself,participate in events, healthcare,fashion n guess whT...the one u were looking for or something even better will come to ur path n u dont have to worry bout such things in such age ( if ur an ambivert go try talking w everyone not onli thru texts hut irl- texts is way diff than talking to tat person irl(based on true events) START CHASING REAL DOPAMINE..MOST OF ALL FOCUS ON UR STUDIES,DO SPORT,MUSIC,EXPLORE EVERYTHING.....EVERY OTHER THING WILL FALL INTO UR PLACE💯
There are more things other than frienships that exists only withing texts bruh :)