so the thing is i like a guy more than like now like i m in love with him ig but idk about him cause sometimes he made me feel like he does but sometimes abandon me like im nothing to him and idk why i only wants to talk to him but he seems to not interested , i want myself to detach from him so that his things doesn't bother me but i am not able to do it

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

i think the hardest part is when someone makes you feel wanted one day and completely unimportant the next. it keeps you holding on to those little moments when they made you feel special, hoping things will go back to that. but you also need to ask yourself whether you're attached to how he actually treats you or how you wish he would treat you. and honestly, detaching isn't something that happens overnight, especially when you genuinely have feelings for someone. maybe start by not making him the centre of your day, stop constantly checking whether he's texted, and try to put that energy back into yourself. and if you haven't already, you could communicate how you feel and see where he actually stands. you deserve clarity, not to be constantly guessing how someone feels about you. also, don't force yourself to stop loving him immediately, just learn to stop neglecting yourself in the process.