So like I don't know from where to start like I am a 20 years old girl. I was always alone in my life I had in had any proper good friend in my life and I am a single child I was always be pampered by my parents and I was always being twisted from doing certain things like I always wanted to move from my college outside the city but they come to me to stay in the city and now I am in my final year and now I want it to move for a job like whether in or out the city and I wanted to earn money and then with that money I wanted to study in an abroad but for them they asking me to choose another goes to my PG and not wanted me to of the job but for me I want to be in the end because all these 20 years and my life I was so dependent on them for everything in my life and I hate it being a single chat I want to knew how to live alone. Adjoint my college I the dream college of my life and then I had the beautiful yours of my life then I got friendship bigger that is so bad that will be feature the but we don't talk I spent with them only one year and then talk with them for the past 2 years but still that one carry heavy emotions and I have faced public harassment. And Ayush to move on like it used to like I have faced it for 34 times and I be Molested. The movement it makes me to feel so worry I cry I don't tell anyone about it and I also don't have be able to voice out at the moment it happens then after that I think last year from October 2025 I faced my first interview and I feel it and from that moment I started wearing a bird each everything in my life like first as that it wearing about the harassment of the year in the public and the look which people gives on me. Started avoiding public travelling and because of this season and then I used to replay a lot of conversation like this things started proving like I used to replay lot of movement that happened in public and the lot of conversation in my room I am alone so this started improve a lot to suspen me a lot I used to cry I used to cry a lot like thinking okay why it happened like that I should have doctor I should I have to done that I should have done this a little like I had a lot of conversation with me and one day it's started to grow as a fear. 1 years and being suffering from this for the past on your and being suffering from this and I really don't know how to overcome like travelling in a public place seeing to be a very big task travel in a public for shopping I used to get worried what will people think of me and 5 minutes to ask you should ask other person to move in order to come out then I am scared for that how to how should I open my mouth excuse me how should I tell them move what if they are shout at me and then should I tell the OTP award if they didn't hear the OTP and ask me to tell again will this shout at me and I go for a shopping what if I doesn't like what will happen what will happen like that lot of thoughts is running over my brain and I am really scared to step out like I was a girl who always wanted to be independent and do all her work on her home now depending on others like I am not sleeping out of my house if I need something I am just telling my parents to buy it and they are not able to buy for exam to dresses in I am ordering in online that to I am not getting out to take the delivery and sending me mom and if I not able to order in online and this a wait for me to go shopping then I say I no need for me I am not going out and give to go out. Something lot of public interactions happens if it would have solved normally but still my brained replay it and things what if it happens like this nu. How should I stop this strange feeling

Question

So like I don't know from where to start like I am a 20 years old girl. I was always alone in my life I had in had any proper good friend in my life and I am a single child I was always be pampered by my parents and I was always being twisted from doing certain things like I always wanted to move from my college outside the city but they come to me to stay in the city and now I am in my final year and now I want it to move for a job like whether in or out the city and I wanted to earn money and then with that money I wanted to study in an abroad but for them they asking me to choose another goes to my PG and not wanted me to of the job but for me I want to be in the end because all these 20 years and my life I was so dependent on them for everything in my life and I hate it being a single chat I want to knew how to live alone. Adjoint my college I the dream college of my life and then I had the beautiful yours of my life then I got friendship bigger that is so bad that will be feature the but we don't talk I spent with them only one year and then talk with them for the past 2 years but still that one carry heavy emotions and I have faced  public harassment. And Ayush to move on like it used to like I have faced it for 34 times and I be Molested. The movement it makes me to feel so worry I cry I don't tell anyone about it and I also don't have be able to voice out at the moment it happens then after that I think last year from October 2025 I faced my first interview and I feel it and from that moment I started wearing a bird each everything in my life like first as that it wearing about the harassment of the year in the public and the look which people gives on me. Started avoiding public travelling and because of this season and then I used to replay a lot of conversation like this things started proving like I used to replay lot of movement that happened in public and the lot of conversation in my room I am alone so this started improve a lot to suspen me a lot I used to cry I used to cry a lot like thinking okay why it happened like that I should have doctor I should I have to done that I should have done this a little like I had a lot of conversation with me and one day it's started to grow as a fear. 1 years and being suffering from this for the past on your and being suffering from this and I really don't know how to overcome like travelling in a public place seeing to be a very big task travel in a public for shopping I used to get worried what will people think of me and 5 minutes to ask you should ask other person to move in order to come out then I am scared for that how to how should I open my mouth excuse me how should I tell them move what if they are shout at me and then should I tell the OTP award if they didn't hear the OTP and ask me to tell again will this shout at me and I go for a shopping what if I doesn't like what will happen what will happen like that lot of thoughts is running over my brain and I am really scared to step out like I was a girl who always wanted to be independent and do all her work on her home now depending on others like I am not sleeping out of my house if I need something I am just telling my parents to buy it and they are not able to buy for exam to dresses in I am ordering in online that to I am not getting out to take the delivery and sending me mom and if I not able to order in online and this a wait for me to go shopping then I say I no need for me I am not going out and give to go out. Something lot of public interactions happens if it would have solved normally but still my brained replay it and things what if it happens like this nu. How should I stop this strange feeling

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I can relate with you! But seriously speaking no give a shit what we do, see life is very short and everyone is so busy in the life, even you don't remember how many people you met in last month(i know you stay at home all the time, just giving example😅) and even those people don't remember you, I know its easy for me to say this but if you are going to think about those people who doesn't give you a shit and even you are just a topic for them, then my dear you are just wasting you energy on those bullshit which you doesn't supposed to focus on, those kind of people just want a topic, topic could be you, could be x person, could be y person, world is a cruel place, and if you are not benefiting them, they are gonna back bite you and if not you then anyone else, these are the behavior of people, that was not there mistake they Have only seen these type of things Familiar with doing This thing but you know how you feel And I also know that this is very hard for you To go through all these things But you have to be little hard, Not on yourself but for yourself, and You have to take stand for yourself Stop thinking about those persons who are not giving you anything, See if you have spoke to someone That person is not gonna remember you after one hour or two hours he will not going to think about you, World is very busy place every person has thousands of responsibilities on their shoulder, they doesn't have enough time to think about anyone random person, and what Will happen if they think about you Can they do something against you no they fucking cannot They have nothing to do against you that is the thing My dear see this thing Just think about Who really matter in your life Everyone else Will just be gonna leave you one day, So thinking something that doesn't matter That I have no relevant in your life we're only going to make your life hard and hard, If something is stopping you to do XYZ thing Do that thing forcefully You have to be a little Challenging, In a nutshell don't think about those person who doesn't Care about you why thinking about such person And I know that is hard For you to stop thinking And even for me As well There is a lot of thing that I cannot stop thinking about but we have to Overcome the fear It's not like anyone in the world is coming to us and saying oh my child I will protect you from this no thats not gonna happen At the particular point of time Even parent will not support you that is the truth, You have to stand for yourself No one will gonna stand for yourself that is the thing And don't think that is very hard it is a part of a life it is a process it is not like A rocket science, You'll automatically adopt this thing by the time Just be a little bit Rebel, Stand for yourself, And try to do some physical activities like yoga or playing I know world is very cruel specifically for Females this The truth as well But this can only be done if you girls can take stand against you if someone is Trying to harass you give a two slap If someone is trying to molest you give 4 slaps The Stand Can only be taken by you, You have to be Hard against the world Otherwise everyone will Taking benefit of you, I again saying that I know that is very easy for me to say but.... I can say only this i'm sorry for all the thing you are facing for so long, But be strong be happy And do what you're hurt and mind says Never let anyone Capture your mind You are you not anyone else If you are slow then thats fine because you are you not anyone else if you are fast then you are you if you are introvert then that's fine because you are you. We have to accept ourselves As we are No need to Fucking change because of X person.