So iam going to a family trip and I think my bf doesn't like it..like he's struggled rn like he don't have a phone,a job(he's graduated),a bike like nothing but he's from a well family only and despite all this he's not taking any action about it..I even recommend him to attend a interview I set for him but he felt like he doesn't know anything so he didn't go..like he's not into future..he's not responsible he don't want to go to any job and not even trying but worring( which is not enough) so I feel like he hates it when I enjoy without him..like he want to go on trip too but he doesn't go,no initiative even i share him idea to go with his frnds but he avoids so it's like if he Don go then I don't go

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I know getting a job isn't easy nowadays but if he isn't even trying then it's concerning. You should talk to him about it and if he is genuinely stuck and struggling with his career then you can help him or set up a counselling session for him with a professional but if he is just lazy  and thinks that things would automatically work then you should give him a wake up call because it's a problem. If you guys are serious and plan to get married or have kids, then this attitude won't help him or you guys' family in the future. He might just become more irresponsible and leave it to you to get everything done. I would suggest talking to him first or you can make a decision based on your observation of him when you talk about job etc. For the trip thing, he might either be guilt tripping you ir is just sad that you are enjoying while he feels stuck which are both not good.