“So i went through a breakup 2 months ago i think i need to give a lot of context and i hope someone is patient enough to read this and please give me advice i am 20 years old...he is 24....i want to be a doctore and i am preparing for entrance exam....he is in the merchant navy.
There was this guy i liked and he was the one who said i love you and we got into a relationship pretty quickly last year september then we brokup in november and it was very hard for me because we didnt even have a conversation it was online we hadnt met each other even once but he was a cousin of my cousins friend....fast forward to he tried to contact me on december and then he was constantly asking people about me and all and then he texted me on april 2026 and we got back together we saw each other for the first time and it was all nice and cool for the next 2 months.....he is kind of a busy person and the first time we brokeup because he wouldnt communicate and we got back together after he pwned up to his mistake.....then from august mid he started being cold and back to the less communication pattern and i was constantly asking what is the problem and he was saying he didnt feel like we were close....then august last we had a very hard conversation and he just bpamed everything on me and said he lost feelings because of me because i wasnt toxic and always chill about whatever he did like i wouldnt get angry about how he did thing( yeah he said that) then he said the lost feelings will never change and he dont want to try to save the relationship...i was literally begging him to try once and all....maybe there was some mistake from my part but he never spoke about what the problem was or anything clearly so the whole time i was very confused on why we were getting distant and he knew it and didnt say a word and then he was like he wont breakup with me because furst time when we brokeup everyone kind of blamed him ( rightfully so)....after that conversation i couldnt even text him for 3 days because i was so much hurt....i loved him so much and he just randomly decided no effort no nothing and wanted me to breakup with him.....and these 3 days he send me only 3 messages saying hey everynight.....like he could have texted anyone to ask if i was okay like there were many people but he didnt even try to do that....like no matter if you lost feelings for someone or not you will have some concern over a person who you talked to every day right?....so i after 3 days asked him if he wanted to breakup and first he pulled out some bullshit stuff like no its okay..like he was doing some sacrifice by being in a relationship where he doesnt even text first now.....so i asked firmly and he said ok.......Now this took a toll on my mental health i havent been the same even after 2 months i am still a girl who got her heart broken i am still stalking him secretly every day and i couldnt even eat food for the fisrt few weeks then i started going to the gym and my mind has gone to the revenge kind of thing....like i want to glowup and i want him to see it....like even though he broke my heart so mucn i still love him. Also he is out there in his instagram posting stuffs like " people who abandoned you in the ocean doesnt have the right to know what the sharks did to you" and posts that makes it seems like he is sad when he was the one who wanted this breakup.....like he is painting himself as a victim and the shit he is reposting makes it seem like i am a cruel one.....i actually deactivated my main account because i couldnt bare it look at our chats....he was such a good guy when he loved me.....the thing is we didnt even date for 5 months straight but i was so emotionally attatched. Rightnow i struggle to do something for myself.yes im going to the gym and doing stuff but i feel empty i cant sleep well and all i do is daydream seeing him again and him regretting and stuff....also i am currently studying for a very important exam which is in 6 months and i cant seem to w9rk hard at all i am drowning myself in social media or day dreaming so that i dont have to look at the reality.....i dont know what to do all i can think about is him. I wish it would stop...i feel like he is not even thinking about me and i am just obsessing over him”
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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker
Ooh girl , this is so sad it's all his loss if he had loved you then he would have told you what was your mistake nobody breaks up in just 5 months this just seems like a timepass and top of all what's the excuse of being chill , what does he want ,you to do arguing all time . If the matter is health or your relationship and we can understand you have to show concern and question it but being chill is not a reason for break up . Don't worry you did nothing wrong it's not your mistake, I am also not a relationship expert but I can assure you it's not your mistake you are very brave to give him a second chance now just focus on your self and on your exam . Career is the most important thing for us for womens