So I joined a college for my post graduation degree 3 months ago and 2 weeks ago I developed a crush on a person who is also my junior like he is doing his undergraduate degree but it his 3rd into the college so image wise/ connections wise he has more established image and connections into the college. Also to give you a background of him he is working as an intern for a big company right now and week ago his a social media also blew up and he is now a growing influencer also. so what happened was initially I was when I developed a crush on him I thought that maybe I should text him and I had two things In mind because I haven't really texted or approached a guy like that before so I was confused wether I should use my actual identity real id to text or anonymously do it and it could turns out in different ways like maybe it's fine if he doesn't reply if he is not interested that is okay with me or he could may be show interest and he could say hi and we could see where this goes but one of my concerns that I had was that I have only just joined college and I have got a reputation and a position like a responsibility or a post you could say in the college so I have a standing not only as a senior in the college but also as a person who holds some responsibilities image and reputation that get impacted if this thing becomes gossip or a hot topic into the college. but for some reason yesterday night I texted him and I quote "listenn I know we haven't really talked to each other before but I think that we could change that so Hiee" I wrote this and for some reason I thought that oh this did not seen like I was interested in him at all I don't know I thought about this thing for like 2 hours and for some reason I thought that this does not sound like a hint I am giving that I am interested him and I sent this message ok so I send this message to him and I expected okay that he might not reply because him being a growing influencer it's very well possible that he misses out on the message or he just doesn't interact with everybody or he isn't simply interested. now so I was fine with it and now it's been 24 hours and not expecting a message from him also that does make me feel sad and upset but there is one more thing when I showed this message to my friend today she changed my perspective and she said that this message looks like something clearly a person showing interest into him and since he did not reply there are chances that he might go and share it with his friends tomorrow and this could become a hot topic. So now this thing took me on a bad trip, now I am concerned on many different levels one am upset he did not reply which I considered but still it's fare for me to be upset second I don't know how to react tomorrow is this goes out and this becomes the topic-I don't know if I should be accepting that yes I am interested in a person or should I you know ignore it and pretend like no this was not me showing interest into him I was just approaching him for a professional work which mind you was going to be something I was going to do but now I feel like that I could hamper that opportunity also. And my college is a place where reputation your image matters are lot so now I am concerned on so many levels I feel irresponsible because I made a move like that but at the same time I also feel that I should not regret liking somebody or expressing interest in somebody because I deserve that too so I don't know what to do anymore I am confused I am sad upset but it's like a web right now. I decided to write it here so maybe if somebody has the time to read these 4000 words maybe somebody can give me their fresh perspective on how this is going and what am I missing out or what can I do maybe a solution or maybe whatever however just a comment I don't know!! Also I forgot to mention one thing about is that I am a very private person and I don't like to share much of my private life with people so approaching someone I like that is already a big deal for me because I haven't done that before with anybody and also if even if I get into relationship with somebody I prefer that it stays private it stays between us until we have developed a good Bond and connection. I don't want my relationships to become a subject of public scrutiny and comments before we have that trust in each other...

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So I joined a college for my post graduation degree 3 months ago and 2 weeks ago I developed a crush on a person who is also my junior like he is doing his undergraduate degree but it his 3rd into the college so image wise/ connections wise he has more established image and connections into the college. Also to give you a background of him he is working as an intern for a big company right now and week ago his a social media also blew up and he is now a growing influencer also. so what happened was initially I was when I developed a crush  on him I thought that maybe I should text him and I had two things In mind because  I haven't really texted or approached a guy like that before so I was confused wether I should use my actual identity real id to text or anonymously do it and it could turns out in different ways like maybe it's fine if he doesn't reply if he is not interested that is okay with me or he could may be show interest and he could say hi and we could see where this goes but one of my concerns that I had was that I have only just joined college and I have got a reputation and a position like a responsibility or a post you could say in the college so I have a standing not only as a senior in the college but also as a person who holds some responsibilities image and reputation that get impacted if this thing becomes gossip or a hot topic into the college. but for some reason yesterday night I texted him and I quote "listenn I know we haven't really talked to each other before but I think that we could change that so Hiee" I wrote this and for some reason I thought that oh this did not seen like I was interested in him at all I don't know I thought about this thing for like 2 hours and for some reason I thought that this does not sound like a hint I am giving that I am interested him and I sent this message ok so I send this message to him and I expected okay that he might not reply because him being a growing influencer it's very well possible that he misses out on the message or he just doesn't interact with everybody or he isn't simply interested. now so I was fine with it and now it's been 24 hours and not expecting a message from him also that does make me feel sad and upset but there is one more thing when I showed this message to my friend today she changed my perspective and she said that this message looks like something clearly a person showing interest into him and since he did not reply there are chances that he might go and share it with his friends tomorrow and this could become a hot topic. So now this thing took me on a bad trip, now I am concerned on many different levels one am upset he did not reply which I considered but still it's fare for me to be upset second I don't know how to react tomorrow is this goes out and this becomes the topic-I don't know if I should be accepting that yes I am interested in a person or  should I you know ignore it and pretend like no this was not me showing interest into him I was just approaching him for a professional work which mind you was going to be something I was going to do but now I feel like that I could hamper that opportunity also. And my college is a place where reputation your image matters are lot so now I am concerned on so many levels I feel irresponsible because I made a move like that but at the same time I also feel that I should not regret liking somebody or expressing interest in somebody because I deserve that too so I don't know what to do anymore I am confused I am sad upset but it's like a web right now. I decided to write it here so maybe if somebody has the time to read these 4000 words maybe somebody can give me their fresh perspective on how this is going and what am I missing out or what can I do maybe a solution or maybe whatever however just a comment I don't know!!  Also I forgot to mention one thing about is that I am a very private person and I don't like to share much of my private life with people so approaching someone I like that is already a big deal for me because I haven't done that before with anybody and also if even if I get into relationship with somebody I prefer that it stays private it stays between us until we have developed a good Bond and connection. I don't want my relationships to become a subject of public scrutiny and comments before we have that trust in each other...

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

You are taking this wayyy too seriously. It's fine. You liked a guy, approached him, he didn't respond. He might respond later or maybe he won't. Be confident. Even if someone confronts you with this be casual about it, don't get scared or embarassed. You haven't done anything wrong. Just say yeah I did. And if this guy shows private texts to others and they are mean to you, you deserve better girl.