“So, I have been feeling pretty messed up lately about my whole life. I am addicted to corn pmo for almost 10 years now, and I don't have a purpose of life anymore. My academics are pretty bad, not disastrous, but bad. I'm confused about what to do. My love life is not going anywhere. I have been fighting with these urges and thoughts regularly, trying to get my life back, trying to exercise, trying to eat healthy, trying to change my environment, trying to get out of this dopamine hole, trying to read books, go to library, find a goal of life. But I somehow can't, and it feels like no matter what I do, I cannot get out of this deep dark hole that I am in right now. And I really don't know what to do.”

Another soul answered...

stop wanting to fix everything overnight. tht's overexpectations of you from yourself nga. corn doesn't define your all urges. try making geniune friendship with girls than wanting to crack. Ask female friends about it , personally telling , if you can trust them and they too do to you, you can improve. don't try to fix everything. follow a routine buddy. I have a feeling that you have created a idealistic person so hard and perfect tht you are trying to erase and work on who you are today. take one step at a time. maybe two. but don't try fixing everything. if your love life is not going anywhere , drop it. tell her that you want some space and tell that it isn't working anymore. ask yourself if you are demanding lust from the relationship or love. love is by standing together at times like these. and you said of academics , so I guess you are still a under graduate or post graduate. bro you have your whole fucking life. if you want , improve who you are , change youself gradually in a year or two , maybe three and fucking disappear to a new country. new people , new you. never make a problem so complex when you have the issue all to yourself. and yeah never think of this everythingg at night. a small drama can be like cinematic break up love international issue or so like magnifying the problem. night is to isolate and think on yourself. have some rest not create unnecassary drama. now you have problems to solve , do one at a time. all the best nga. wish you luck for your life