Someone once asked...

“So i have a ex and we were like on and off for a months we broke up the first time after a small argument and we used to be in same class and it was very hard for me to move on from him cause we used to see eachother daily and there was actually no vaild reason for breaking up people thought he cheated and i didn’t correct them and after maybe 6 months of not talking his dad had an accident and I texted him if was good cause he didn’t have genuine friends and we started talking from that day and we got back together after few months of talking and it was going smoothly and suddenly one day after we had a fight and i provoked him he told me it was over and i told him to meet me and tell me that in my face and we met he was joking about things and i got angry and he left me where i was sitting and after i texted him when i got home he told me it’s done and because i was angry i blocked him everywhere and ì realized what i had done later and called him and we didn’t talked much but he stayed with me all night and ended the call at morning and blocked me and we didn’t talked since we have common friends as we were in the same class that semester and his cousin was my friend and i texted him to know what was wrong and he told me my ex hadn’t talked to them and is ignoring their messages and whenever i reached him he gave me different reasons for breaking up and eventually i gave up and stopped contacting him and now a few weeks ago he had emailed me a long paragraph and we emailed back and started talking(he doesn’t have friends everyone who he calls his friend makes him leftout) and we met a few times and a few days ago i met him and he had gone through my phone and i asked him to give me his phone I’ll do the same but he refused and I didn’t ask and mind you the moment we started talking we sleep in call so I thought we will get back together again but I wasn’t planning getting back together and i asked him if he talked to others that day and he answered honestly that he did to maybe 3-4 girls and i was debating if I should still talk to him or not cause i had again been attached to him and thè thought of not talking to him made me shiver so i thought I would eventually stop talking but not now so from the day i had known that he talks to other girls we hadn’t talked much but we called at night and slept together in call and today we hadn’t talked much maybe 7-8 sentences max and he told me I’m going to sleep good night and I didn’t knew what to do so I reacted to the message and now i don’t know whom to talk cause I don’t have genuine friends who will listen to me and not judge [maybe people won’t read this long ass paragraph but if you’re thankyou maybe suggest me something or nothing idk😭]”

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Someone answered with kindness...

Bro he ain't right for ya😭✌🏻. Even if ur attached to him hell naw yar be away from him . Even if like he doesn't have much friends pls out of sympathy don't talk to him . Everythings seems like he's kinda red flag so just my opinion do not be with him again please

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Another soul answered...

I really think you shouldn't be giving him a chance, because you guys went so much back and forth that you have lost your sense of true self and I also feel he wants your time and attention but dont wanna put in the work to have you. So maybe choose yourself this time. HARD? Absolutely! Impossible? No. Hope this helps :)

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Another soul answered...

Gurll 😭💔 if you need friends you can maybe dm me on insta if u use , it's- panoclao you can search trust me I'm a good listener ... Okay back to topic ... Girl, first of all, I need you to understand that you're not stupid for still having feelings for him. You've been through an on-and-off relationship with this person for months, and every time you thought you were finally moving on, he somehow found his way back into your life. Of course you're attached. But honestly, I think you need to take a step back and look at what's happening. You're getting emotionally attached to someone who hasn't clearly communicated what he wants from you. You're sleeping on calls, meeting up, talking regularly and slowly falling back into the same routine you had when you were together. Naturally, you're going to develop expectations, even if neither of you has officially discussed getting back together. And that's where the problem is. You cannot keep giving someone the privileges of being your boyfriend while having no clarity about where you stand in their life. Also, him going through your phone but refusing to let you see his is a double standard. Privacy is important, but it should apply to both people. My advice? Don't suddenly block him, don't beg him to stay, and don't play games to make him jealous. Just have an honest conversation with him. Ask him what he actually wants from you. Does he genuinely see a future with you, or does he just miss having you around? Because those are two very different things. And please, don't let the fear of losing him convince you to accept a situation that's making you constantly anxious. You mentioned that the thought of not talking to him makes you shiver. I think that's something you should reflect on, too. Sometimes we're so used to having someone in our daily lives that the thought of losing that routine feels scarier than the actual relationship problems. One more thing: you don't have to compete with those 3–4 girls, nor do you have to prove that you're worth choosing. If he wants to be with you, he needs to communicate that clearly. And if he doesn't, you deserve to know rather than being kept in an undefined situation. Please choose your peace this time. You can love someone, miss them and still acknowledge that the way things are going isn't good for you. And remember, you don't have to hate him to decide that something isn't working anymore. ♡ Also... If you'll push him away you'll get even more attracted to him so take it easy ... Start little by little ...!!

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