Someone once asked...

“So I have a crush on this boy ... I asked can we date he said he'd like to talk first I agreed because yea that's good ig... But he doesn't comes on his own to talk to him I mean ik i like him and i should go but yk what I found , he uploaded a story that "I lied .. I miss her" so it's about his ex yea... He's still maybe loving his ex wherever he claims that he moved on and things... Anyways , if I want I can actually be together with him from help with our friends and things... That's not the problem really... The actual problem is that even if we will be together he'll still be loving his ex ... And I really am interested in him I love him... What should I do? I've heard that many girls made their bfs move on and tgings... But I have no idea how could I too? Can someone please help me? Please guide me with advices and things , I'll be happy!”

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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker

Liking someone can be stressful, and i totally get you! I hope you know that your feelings are valid but we also gotta remember that crushes are people that we haven't known yet. There is only pain and anxiety in situations where feelings aren't reciprocated and it sounds like the guy still has feelings for his ex. This is probably something you already know but you deserve better. You deserve someone who'd love you in entirety, not halfway. You have to think a bit deeper in yourself, beneath the surface - what is it about this guy that you actually like? What will happen if he likes you back? What is it about him that is making you feel like you like/love him? And making a new boyfriend isn't going to help you move on, it might distract you from the real problem but this sounds like you gotta journal a lot. I hope you are surrounded by a good support system. I would suggest you to please discover yourself, your hobbies, what actually moves you, what might be things which are attractive but harmful in the long run. It sounds boring, maybe too vulnerable as well, but as someone older who has gone through this shxt way too many times, I feel like we kinda need to get back to ourselves and see if its a good thing for us or not. I hope this helps

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Another soul answered...

Hey so even if u love him there is no point if he's still stuck on his ex . Its hard to make him move on . U need to know if he's really interested in you or not . And do not try to force him . There's not much can do about it . So maybe really confront him and ask him maybe that will lead u somewhere if ur clear with him that only date me if u have moved on

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