“So I had a bestfriend 2 years ago. She is an avoidant and I am anxious. For the first 2 years everything was good only. 3rd year also okay okay. We also had a lot of fights in between. But we used to share and talk a lot. Shared the most embarrassing stuff and all. Then things changed in 4th year. She joined a company for work. I started seeing her less and less day by day. But we used to still text. Then that also slowly decreased. But I was a little okay only with it. Cause life uk. Things keep changing. But the distance between us also I felt kept getting bigger and bigger. Then one day I confronted her about it. I wrote a 19 page something about it. Then she told goodbye. Since then she has been very happy. She made new bestfriend and friends. Went on outing and all. And her new bestfriend is one from our friend group. Like she just replaced me so fast. Like immediately. Me on the other hand just getting going lower and lower. I kept avoiding everyone now. No more going out or anything. And the thing is we belong to the same friend group. So we have to keep meeting sometimes. And on top of that I have only this friend group left. If this is also gone, then gone onlyl. Idk what to do. By head hurts. I keep getting weird and stupid thoughts. Please help me”
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Someone answered with kindness...
First of all, you’re not weird its completely normal to feel this way second of all it was her decision to do that and it doesnt define you so stop thinking she replaced you, she already moved on her memories will live with you and they’re beautiful but take this as an opportunity to take care of YOURSELF i know it doesnt help but right now wondering where you went wrong or what you could have done to make it better wont help, :) it’ll get better i promise