so i am w this guy for a like 11 months and the problem is i can’t figure out whether he loves me or not, i mean sometimes i am sure but sometimes i am just not but now the issue is idk if i really doubt him or is this my self sabotaging behaviour, how do i figure out which one is it, also we have had our ups and downs but the problem is ever since things got fucked up w him, i started feeling v bad, like nothing is working out for me now i can’t understand whether it’s my habits only or is universe telling me he is the wrong guy, please tell me a way to figure that out, idc how harsh it is just be honest

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

i think you don't know what you are doing to yourself. like don't judge your relation by feeling the best days . anyone will treat you well when everything is good. moreover ask yourself if it's you who is overthinking  or he is actually how you describe. Don't create too many mental scenarios. that leads to judging someone who they are obvi not. don't be influenced by your friends about it , think it on your own. give yourself space to think. and write down all the things which you think are going wrong with you and him and your life together. take a brief what caused it too. don't be under someone's influence too.   take some distance and space to observe things going on. you can love them and still not have a good relationship . just like me and my ex. we loved each other , but the situations , the ideas and everything we lived in were totally different. you can't just make a life with someone you love. it has to be someone who makes you feel secure and comforting without letting his thoughts on you. moreover , in relationship , never compromise respect. you might have your own ideas of respect but make sure you don't compromise that.