“So I am 23y old and have never been in love . And a guy with whom I have been friends for 5 months (online) now asked if we could be more then friends . We are 1000 + km away and we have cultural differences. As far as I know he seems nice . But i am not sure if I like him .... What to do ??”

Another soul answered...

Hi twin, I am 18 also never been in a relationship but I have some online friends. Well you met someone online they seem nice, treat you well and care stuff but you don't know the real them, you don't know how they act in specific situations, you don't know who really is behind the screen. This is what I think and because of that I have always been cautious with my online friendships in start and i discuss different topics with my friends - marriage, politics, relationships, current affairs and a lot and we have friends groups also which is why I know how they behave with others too so basically I know their perspectives, their interests and what they believe in and what angers them and also discuss sensitive topics and because of this we realised one of our friend who seemed nice earlier was not good company , his and our view of life never matches and he don't respect boundaries - like people can have different perspectives ofc but he never listened to ours and always tried to tell his and prove us wrong so we cut contact with him. Friendship are also close relations and you get attached and online relationship are too close and can hurt you badly too and you only know that guy for just 5 months and you didn't told anything other than he is nice so I don't know about how he behaves, how he treat you, what his personality his etc so I would say getting into a relationship with him now will be a mistake as you guys first need to know more about each other and you also said you are not sure if you like him so just because he said can we be more than friends, doesn't mean you should ignore this unsure feeling and be with him just because he is nice . You need to think and see if you can be with him without worry, you can have a future with him, will he treat you right, do you like him or it's just that he is nice that's what you like about him . If you don't wanna be in relationship then be clear with him and if he pressures you then remember cutting contact with people is also fine, you don't owe him anything, he wants that and if you don't what relationship that's totally fine. If you feel like if you say no then maybe your friendship wouldn't stay same , my friend your feeling matter more than any friendship, if you don't wanna do something don't then and if he can't understand and ruins the friendship then letting go is the best thing. No matter how beautiful thing is but if you feel uneasy then let go. I just rambled on what i thought I should say so. Your feelings matter but be careful because online many people are nice but there are people who disguise themselves as nice but aren't so being a little cautious is better than being hurt later.