“So basically, my bf wasn't talking much, which I completely understand. But obviously it was affecting my mood and I was overthinking a little. I even told him beforehand that I wasn't in a good mood and might overthink, but he saw that message from the notification and didn't reply. That made me feel bad again. The next morning I texted him, then deleted it because I thought I might sound rude and sent a proper good morning instead. He replied after almost 145 minutes. Later I called him during my break and told him that he was supposed to call me, and that's when we started arguing. He said he had already seen my message and asked why I hadn't called him, but I genuinely wasn't in the right state of mind yesterday. Anyway, we fought and he said his mood was bad too now. After that I sent him a message explaining everything and even apologised, but he didn't reply, so I deleted it because I didn't want to drag things further. Then I randomly felt like calling him just to say I love you, so I did. He didn't say anything at first, and only said it back when I said bye. I know he eventually said it, but I was already hurt by then. The thing is, I don't want him to convince me or make a big deal out of everything. I just want him to ask me what's wrong sometimes, why I'm upset, or if something is bothering me instead of just saying don't ruin my mood. I called him again later and he said he wasn't angry and told me to chill, but I still feel bad. I don't want to keep initiating conversations now. I want him to make an effort too. And what hurt me even more was when he said that if he doesn't talk to me, I'll just write another paragraph and leave him. I don't want to leave him. Even the last time I left a relationship, it wasn't because I happily wanted to go, I was just fed up. I'm scared that I'll eventually become emotionally distant because I overanalyse everything. I know my periods are due in a day or two, so maybe everything feels more intense right now, but that doesn't mean my feelings aren't real. I love him and I don't want this relationship to end. I just want to feel understood without having to explain every little emotion.”
✦
Someone answered with kindness...
sorry but you have to say all of this to your partner/bf not over a chat but rather face to face and sort out the communication gap between you two