so basically me and my ex broke up in July, but we continued staying friends after that as well... and the thing is that we broke up because we were long distance and he just couldn't handle long distance, and also he loves physical intimacy which i obviously couldn't give. anyways one month in the breakup, we're still talking like friends, flirting here and there( and me sharing some explicit photos too, ik i shouldn't have but guilty pleasures ig). anyways one month in and i find out he's flirting with another girl too... so i told him I'll take a step back but he didn't want that said he only wanted to be with me bla bla bla
next week he ghosts me for 15 hours straight up... when i confronted him and he started manipulating me and gaslighting me... anyways even after this I still didn't stop talking to him, we stayed friends, still flirted and all... we still fought here and there but we were friends with flirtationship and explicit photos here and there. now yesterday this girl texted me and i found out he basically hooked up with this girl before we started dating, and he never mentioned about this. in addition to that he met her as well 3 times while we were dating, but they didn't hook up. and basically he also asked her if she missed the booking up and if she would be interested WHILE we were dating. they met 2 days back and he still asked her the same question if he could kiss her... and so all this happened and now idk what to do. i obviously stopped talking to him, blocked him from EVERYWHERE. but still I jst feel... i do want to talk to him obviously abt this... but also no cause he might manipulate me... but also idk what to do anymore
he calls me sweetie and babe and what not when we were broken up as well... and now I find this out... i feel so stupid but i also wanna ask him if he ever loved me ughh

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so basically me and my ex broke up in July, but we continued staying friends after that as well... and the thing is that we broke up because we were long distance and he just couldn't handle long distance, and also he loves physical intimacy which i obviously couldn't give. anyways one month in the breakup, we're still talking like friends, flirting here and there( and me sharing some explicit photos too, ik i shouldn't have but guilty pleasures ig). anyways one month in and i find out he's flirting with another girl too... so i told him I'll take a step back but he didn't want that said he only wanted to be with me bla bla bla 
next week he ghosts me for 15 hours straight up... when i confronted him and he started manipulating me and gaslighting me... anyways even after this I still didn't stop talking to him, we stayed friends, still flirted and all... we still fought here and there but we were friends with flirtationship and explicit photos here and there. now yesterday this girl texted me and i found out he basically hooked up with this girl before we started dating, and he never mentioned about this. in addition to that he met her as well 3 times while we were dating, but they didn't hook up. and basically he also asked her if she missed the booking up and if she would be interested WHILE we were dating. they met 2 days back and he still asked her the same question if he could kiss her... and so all this happened and now idk what to do. i obviously stopped talking to him, blocked him from EVERYWHERE. but still I jst feel... i do want to talk to him obviously abt this... but also no cause he might manipulate me... but also idk what to do anymore 
he calls me sweetie and babe and what not when we were broken up as well... and now I find this out... i feel so stupid but i also wanna ask him if he ever loved me ughh

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Even if you ask him “if he ever loved you “ he gonna manipulate and gaslight you to think that he always have loved you , cause he have some level of attraction to you , that’s definitely not undeniable. But at the same time , he is there in the game for intimacy. He is gonna always seek physical affection from someone else , I am not very sure about this in the paragraph you gave here , but if he’s gonna as someone else to kiss him while he was still seeing you in the side , then it definitely sound like he will end up cheating on you if you were to continue this and enter a relationship with him . In what I can read , I feel like maybe you need to take time in a relationship, and take things slow and steady rather just jumping from one level to another . But I don’t think he’s ready to take things slow , or I don’t think he is trying to find anyone as his “future partner “ or longtime relationship. He’s jumping from one person to another like it’s a game of hide and seek . So what you did by blocking him sounds like a great decision. He might come back , find other ways too to contact you . But remember, he will never put as much effort that you are ready to put even if it’s a flirtationship that you both are in