so apparentely since childhood to my early twenties i did everything to make everyone around me happy ..whether what the want me to wear to ordering what they like...from listening to everyone to remember what the want for birthdays..its always me reaching out and become a giver...not that i will say that i never expected something in return but it always ended up in disappointment...slowly i realised i became a people pleaser...to scared to say thing out loud and let them trample over me always..not even my family knows that im mentally, emotionally and physically drained out...from studying what they wanted me to getting good grades in school still it was not enough ..to leaving my dream course and doing what everyone wanted me ..to now being graduated and stuck ...know one tries to understand why i took a break year and why im scared to go through that campus life...to even scared that i think i want to get in therapy to consider whether what im going through is even worth ...

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I wish you could see that you don't always have to be the person who understands everyone, adjusts for everyone and keeps everyone happy. You deserve to be understood too. And honestly, there's nothing wrong with taking a break or choosing a different path when you're mentally and emotionally exhausted. You don't have to prove your worth through grades, achievements or by fulfilling everyone's expectations. Please don't feel guilty about wanting therapy either. Seeking help doesn't mean you're weak or that your struggles aren't valid enough. You deserve to have a life that feels like yours, not one where you're constantly trying to meet everyone's expectations. And I hope you slowly learn to choose yourself without feeling guilty about it.