People say we do self sabotage by already guessing what the outcome would be in friendships or any relationships. But the thing is, there was a time where I went with the flow and it didnt end at all. So I just started noticing the red flags in advance through my previous experiences and kind of start distancing myself from them which would end up becoming the outcome I expected. So how do you not self sabotage but also protect your peace?

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hi 👋
Personally I believe self sabotaging has wayyy less to do with noticing the red flags and much more to do with doing little bits of wrong things to a person unconsciously. For example I as a self sabotager will get angry over nothing because somewhere in my mind I believe that along the line something is bound to happen and it will be best to let go early on even if there's absolutely no proof suggesting that that bad thing will happen. It's kind of a defense mechanism to prevent you from harm only problem being the person never showed any sign of wanting to harm you you just believe that it's a future possibility. Self sabotaging doesn't mean noticing and avoiding red flags it's kinda like inventing and acting on phantom future red flags. Hope you give yourself to love and hurt because it's okay to let down your guard even if it may end up in pain . Don't repeat the mistake I keep making 💖. Good luck