Someone once asked...
Someone answered with kindness...
Don’t judge yourself so much. Accept and appreciate yourself as you are today. Respect those around you for who they are, understand that there will always be an element of projection going on here. So always ask, who are they vs who do I think they are etc, what are they actually giving me in reality vs what am I putting on top of that Kindness doesn’t look the same for everyone, I would focus on feeling acceptance and gratitude for those around you and the actions will follow in whatever form fits your personality