okie so i’m a bi girly here and i have a thing going on with this girl and idk what to do lowk so yea
so basically me and this girl are friends but not that close of friends then at the beginning of this year she started getting flirty with me anol which is ok cuz i did like her then this went on for months but it was also on and off like whenever she would feel like it we would talk or flirt and if not then not and it wasn’t daily and i was aware that i was more attached and stuff
then in september she was drunk and called me and confessed that she’s liked me since a year kinda and told me a lot of things but she was like there is no future so there’s no point but i was like u meet me tomorrow we’ll figure it out but she dint show up i knew she was embarrassed and needed space so i gave her that and we dint speak for a week then i texted her asking if she’s okay anol then for sometime things were fine between us cuz we dint bring up about that night and like the subtle flirting and i miss u anol started again online only irl we dint talk at all kinda then cut to last week we finally spoke about everything and she told me that yes she did mean whatever she told on call and stuff and that there’s no future between us so she doesn’t know what to do and anol even idk to be honest but i don’t wanna lose her even as the friends we were but yes and we spoke bout it but lowk the conversation was very awkward and dint go anywhere and it’s been a week and she’s not talking to me and yea it’s hurting me a lot
i have been very idk sad about it a lot and even seeing her makes me kinda sad and i feel like crying and i have cried a few times cuz of this
and i know i sound very stupid about it but yea
and also one of the things is i know that she isn’t as deep in this as i am like genuinely i don’t think she cares so much but my dumbass on the other hand can’t let go of it so yea
and also we are gonna go out separate ways in a few months as we are graduating and the thought of it also makes me emotional cuz again i don’t wanna lose her but idk man
trying to move on so yea
now that im reading this i sound so stupid but it’s making me sad so yea
and it’s my goal now to just get past this so let’s see

thank you for reading
love ya

Question

okie so i’m a bi girly here and i have a thing going on with this girl and idk what to do lowk so yea 
so basically me and this girl are friends but not that close of friends then at the beginning of this year she started getting flirty with me anol which is ok cuz i did like her then this went on for months but it was also on and off like whenever she would feel like it we would talk or flirt and if not then not and it wasn’t daily and i was aware that i was more attached and stuff 
then in september she was drunk and called me and confessed that she’s liked me since a year kinda and told me a lot of things but she was like there is no future so there’s no point but i was like u meet me tomorrow we’ll figure it out but she dint show up i knew she was embarrassed and needed space so i gave her that and we dint speak for a week then i texted her asking if she’s okay anol then for sometime things were fine between us cuz we dint bring up about that night and like the subtle flirting and i miss u anol started again online only irl we dint talk at all kinda then cut to last week we finally spoke about everything and she told me that yes she did mean whatever she told on call and stuff and that there’s no future between us so she doesn’t know what to do and anol even idk to be honest but i don’t wanna lose her even as the friends we were but yes and we spoke bout it but lowk the conversation was very awkward and dint go anywhere and it’s been a week and she’s not talking to me and yea it’s hurting me a lot 
i have been very idk sad about it a lot and even seeing her makes me kinda sad and i feel like crying and i have cried a few times cuz of this 
and i know i sound very stupid about it but yea 
and also one of the things is i know that she isn’t as deep in this as i am like genuinely i don’t think she cares so much but my dumbass on the other hand can’t let go of it so yea 
and also we are gonna go out separate ways in a few months as we are graduating and the thought of it also makes me emotional cuz again i don’t wanna lose her but idk man 
trying to move on so yea 
now that im reading this i sound so stupid but it’s making me sad so yea 
and it’s my goal now to just get past this so let’s see

thank you for reading 
love ya <3

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

firstly girl so proud of you for acknowledging it for what it is and facing it. and just because it was "nothing" does not mean what you felt was not real. it is ok to feel sad, just let go of the emotions and dont run from them. i know you will get through this. and even if you cant move on, be happy that you were lucky enough to feel this way for someone. trust me people spend their entire lives to find a connection or chasing an emotion. so just know: you can have feelings for someone and still let them go, does not mean it was bad or anything or it wasnt valid, feel the sadness and allow yourself to be open and hopeful for future.